My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years. We had a rocky relationship in the beginning. He broke things off often, 7 times, and went and slept with 3 other women, shortly after we split. Well around 8 months into the relationship I moved in with him and got pregnant. We continued to break up during the pregnancy and after. It wasn't until our child was almost 2 that we really called it quits.

I met someone else and was extremely attracted to him emotionally and physically. But, my husband pursued me after about 3 months and I decided to take another chance. Well since then things have been mostly great. But, about 6 months ago he started never coming home, I heard past women he has slept with we're coming up to his work "to get their cars worked on", and some how staying there and chit chatting. It broke my heart to continuously have to tell my 2 year old that "daddy won't be home tonight, maybe you will see him tomorrow". I was usually seeing him 1-2 times a week and when he would come home I would be leaving for work.

I became desperate and begged him to come home and spend more time with his family, and he told me well maybe you should just find another family then. I snapped and completely shut down inside. I became so emotionally distraught I blocked him out. I started living my own life and going out with friends, which he did not approve of.

One night I was out with a girlfriend and we met up with a guy I went to high school with and used to date. We hit it off right away and he filled my head with all these thoughts of my husband cheating on me, he said he was just being honest but when a guy never comes home, is constantly suspicious about you, and he is hanging out with past sexual partners that is a pretty big sign. That night I got home and he asked me for a divorce because I had been out all night and he had called me repeatedly, had my dad call me, and some of his friends and I didn't answer. I told him I hated him and that he was a liar.

Nothing came off it and we continued down the separate lives path. I had made plans to divorce him, was looking into getting my own house and was feeling confident about the situation. I even met with a lawyer. Well I had been revealing all these plans to my old high school friend over my phone. My husband went through my phone one night while I was asleep and saw them, woke me up, and proceeded to flip out on me. I told him everything and then cut ties with my high school friend. And told my husband I would keep trying. He took me to a fancy dinner and a nice hotel room, bought me jewelry, and was trying really hard. But, I wasn't in love with him anymore and it was hard to try and show any emotion back. Well 7 months later things have been a lot better. He is home more, helps me out with our child, and around the house, but still we fight every now and then. I do love him and he has been treating me very good, but my feeling are still not the same for him. I keep telling myself it is just a phase, it takes time to fall back in love with someone. But, I seemed to have hit a plateau and my feelings haven't progressed.

We are great partners, we are very young only 22-23, we own our own home, and I have a successful job, and his family is extremely wealthy so he has always been financially stable. From the outside looking in things are great! But inside I'm constantly fighting a never ending battle with in myself. There are times I would much rather just sleep then have sex with him and there is just no emotional feelings anymore. We are great roommates.

Well, here recently he has ventured into a new career and his business partner has been coming around and hanging out. He is younger than me, very business savvy, great with my son, has earned his way in life to be very successful. He is quiet and confident and I have become completely infatuated with him. There is nothing sexual about it, his very personality just makes me attracted to him, from a strangers view he would be lanky! But his very voice melts me, seeing him play with my son brings such joy to me. He is the first thing I think of when I go to bed and wake up. He jokes with me and always asks my opinion. He even stuck up for my son when my husband was being overly stern. I have never even touched the man! But we all went to dinner and our eyes locked and we just stared. I don't want to feel this way but I can't help it.

Someone please tell me what to do!

When people are not happy, or dissatisfied at home, they are very vulnerable to normal feelings of attractions to others which is human. Those feelings are normal, and offer a temporary distraction to what we are going through.

Stay within the boundaries of good behavior, and stopping the staring matches, and the crush will pass and you can focus on improving your home, so it is as good as it looks on the outside.

You are committed to trying, so do so without outside distractions, or temptations. Limit your exposure to these distractions, and focus on whats important. Keep it real, and leave fantasy, and flirting in LALA LAND, where it belongs.