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Animals101
Jul 5, 2012, 08:38 PM
Hello. My name is Animals101 and this is my first question on this site. Before I actually ask my question it would be appreciated if you read my personal experience first. Here's my story. Two years ago I was in my worst year of school in my life. The teachers were irritable and the my fellow classmates were unkind and acted more like chimps than anything. However, I my social studies class was my favorite time of the day. I had the nicest and most understandable teacher and I actually had the pleasure of sitting next to someone who was very different from the other students.

She was a brilliant girl. You know, someone who can actually think! Even more appealing was that she was the one of the nicest people I ever had the joy of knowing. She always greeted me with a smile and was comfortable talking with me, and at the time I felt that everyone hated me. For her own protection she will only be known by the first letter of her name, A.

Love at first sight is not the term for my relationship with A. When I first met her she was my friend and nothing more, but my feelings began to form into a mild crush. I should also point out that I thought she was gorgeous. A had big beautiful brown eyes and full rich lips. Because she was of Indian decent (as in the Asian country, not the people native to America) she had perfect cinnamon skin and long silky raven hair. She is also thin due to her participation in running club.

I never told A for that school year on my feelings, because I assumed they were juvenile and mild. "It was just a crush" I told myself. "I'll get over it." She was only my friend, but in a fit of paranoid I felt she was disgusted by me and knew I liked her toward the end of that year. Is any of this actually true? No. Why did I think this? There wasn't an actual reason. When I look back I realize I felt lousy about myself in general, so it makes sense that I was so paranoid. What can you do? I was only 13.

Anyway, I never forgot about A during that summer. She was just perfect! She was so smart and kind... Two aspects of life that my generation has forgot. In the next year of school, those feelings flooded back after I actually spoke with A for the first time that year. She was so happy to see me! And I now think I did a pathetic job at showing her how I missed her. Regardless, we reformed our friendship. However, it was far more awkward than before mainly because I feel my crush for A has grown and I was shy to begin with.

After many months, a few weeks before the end of the school year, I got the nerve to tell her how I felt, "Hi, A. We've been friends for - two years, and even though we don't know that much about each other because we don't have any classes together this year, I just want you to know I think you're great. A-And since it's the end of the year I just want you to know- umm... ha... (swallow) I like you..."
And A responded with, "Awwwww! That's so sweet! I think you're awesome, too."

Yes, this exchange was a bit awkward, but A already knew I liked her from another friend of mine.

Now we catch up with the present. Closer to the end of school we have our only school dance. Of course, I cowered like a jellyfish and didn't ask her. By the time I was going to, someone else did. Don't see this as a discouraging sign. Another thing, you should know about A is that she is a social butterfly, so she spends her time hovering from friend to friend. This is also why it's tough to hang out with her outside of school.

Anyway, I did end up dancing with her briefly, but she was quickly taken away by one of her girlfriends and I didn't get a chance to ask her again.

It should be noted at this point that I am considered a very good artist and during the year I gave A several drawings including an illustration of a rabbit (one of her favorite animals) for Valentine's Day. Another thing I should note is that A is a very talented actress and singer. During the year, she performed in a play based off Hansel and Gretel (with her as Gretel).

As a way of saying goodbye, for this was our last year at that school, I gave her an illustration of her in her Gretel costume and a silver bracelet with a pink music note charm attached to it. This is my favorite part She was very touched and flattered, and she thanked me generously. It was such a pleasant interaction. I treasure it because it showed me that she cares about me. She actually treasures my friendship. :)

Now it's summer. I continue texting with A, but I'm afraid that I'll never see her again :( Basically my question is, WHAT DO I DO NOW? What do I do to make A my girlfriend? I feel I actually love her...

tingtang
Jul 5, 2012, 09:12 PM
Hi,
I read the whole thing!
So you've liked her for 2 years?
And haven't asked her out!
If you text her, I think you should ask her(:
And if she doesn't want to, then hey.. There's other fish in the sea!

rocketman11
Jul 6, 2012, 12:40 AM
I have a similar story. I was too shy to ask out my first girlfriend (many years ago). We were friends for about 6 years and I knew her from school. We started as friends but after 4 years I developed a crush on her. She was an amazing girl because she was so different to other girls and we had so much in common. Long story short, I plucked up the courage to ask her out and we dated for one year.

I was extremely shy and I could not talk to girls at all, but I still managed to pluck up the courage to ask her out. All I can say is ask her out because I know that if you don't you might regret it in the future, and so what if she says no or the relationship doesn't last, the thing you'll learn from this is whether she is the right girl for you, if not there are plenty more out there.

I know you can do it! Good luck :)

Animals101
Jul 6, 2012, 05:01 AM
Tingtang, I did not like A for those whole two years. At the most I liked her for 1 1/2 years. Plus, I got my first cell phone recently and had no way before then to communicate with her. Besides, I'm shy...

tingtang
Jul 6, 2012, 03:25 PM
Ohh, I see
Well if you communicate with her now, tell her.how you feel(:
I'm a shy person and I liked someone and I never told them. Then when I finally did it was too late! Tell her how you feel!

Animals101
Jul 6, 2012, 03:36 PM
You two are right. As a matter of fact, I am going to invite A to see a movie this week. Wish me luck~ :)

Homegirl 50
Jul 6, 2012, 05:12 PM
How old are you? Is this girl old enough to date? What does being your girl friend mean at your age?
If you like her tell her, what do you have to lose.

Animals101
Jul 6, 2012, 07:12 PM
For my own protection, I will not share my age, but I am a minor in high school. A is only one year younger than me and is allowed to date.

In this context "girlfriend" simply means a friend who is a girl.

Homegirl 50
Jul 6, 2012, 07:15 PM
Well if you like her tell her.

talaniman
Jul 6, 2012, 07:51 PM
Nothing wrong with inviting your crush on a friendly date. That's the problem with being shy, and scared. You waste so much time that it sends a bad signal, and gives somebody else the chance to share time.

Be yourself, and let her decide if she wants to be your girl friend, or just a friend. But first you have to ask her to be. Dating, and hangout, texting, is all well and good, but if you are afraid to take a chance, you will never know, what she wants, will you?

tingtang
Jul 9, 2012, 12:26 AM
You two are right. As a matter of fact, I am going to invite A to see a movie this week. Wish me luck~ :)

Good for you!(:
And make sure you bring her too a funny movie!
And not a romantic one. You don't want her to be weirded out!
Good luck pal!