Hi, my fiancée and l have just broken up 2 weeks ago. We have two great kids together. Anyway she asked for a trial separation as life, work, studies and finances were getting to us. We just were in a rut. Anyway a few days later after I left, she started calling me and saying the girls want to talk. But one night she texted me saying she was lonely and misses me.

1 week later l had enough and went over to her place. Too find a male friend of hers sitting on the couch. And l was uncool and expected the worst. After all it was late at night. She says that this guy is so far from what she would consider having a relationship with. Just good friends and he has gone through a similar thing offering advice. So l chose to believe her.

Now my question is this. Tonight she asked me to look after the girls while she went to work for a couple of hours. So I went over. When she got back she changed into something very sexy and revealing. She put on perfume and said smell this. Do you like it. She even let me kiss her neck and she didn't pull away. Then I said come with me I have to leave now so we went into the bedroom, kissed, cuddles and well it could have gone further but I said I have to go.

As I left I gave her another kiss and she said we have to stop doing this it's confusing her.

Is she wanting me back but confused about things going all pear shaped again? She did put in a lot of effort for the relationship over the 7 years but I was distant as I had a lot of pressures financially. Also we had lost our independence but now gaining independence individually. I have seen the error in my ways.

I feel like it's a scene from the move story of us.

Go slow as you get back to a comfortable level of communications and find a way to deal with the financial stresses you find yourself in. It may take time to figure it out and work together, so take the time to work for resolution,and compromise in a calm manner.

A rut doesn't have to be permanent. You have had time to think, now talk, and listen.