upset woman
Jul 4, 2012, 09:27 AM
I have been with my partner now for 12 years, I am now 32 and he is 52 when we first met I was 21 and he 41 things were fantastic between us we traveled, owned a business had fun and even now we don't argue or fall out
He has 3 children from a previous marriage and they are all grown up and they started having children of their own, so he is now a grandad of 4.
We have a really loving relationship, and I know he adores me, however since hitting my 30's I have been thinking about starting a family of my own, trouble is he had a vasectomy 24 years ago and does not like the idea of having any more children, I have spoken to him and told him this is what I want, he has said he would do anything to keep me and would look at reversals if it means we get to be together. I don' think that this is fair of me to make him do that, I mean when he is 60 he could possibly have a 2-3 year old child when he should be looking at taking it easy.
Also sex between us has almost stopped, not through want of trying on my part but he has a bad job and put's it down to stress, but that makes me feel awful and unwanted, is this something that will get better or is that his age showing!
My question is, should I leave and try meet someone else who wants to settle down have kids and grown old together, should I stay and make him happy but miserable, what should I do ?
He has 3 children from a previous marriage and they are all grown up and they started having children of their own, so he is now a grandad of 4.
We have a really loving relationship, and I know he adores me, however since hitting my 30's I have been thinking about starting a family of my own, trouble is he had a vasectomy 24 years ago and does not like the idea of having any more children, I have spoken to him and told him this is what I want, he has said he would do anything to keep me and would look at reversals if it means we get to be together. I don' think that this is fair of me to make him do that, I mean when he is 60 he could possibly have a 2-3 year old child when he should be looking at taking it easy.
Also sex between us has almost stopped, not through want of trying on my part but he has a bad job and put's it down to stress, but that makes me feel awful and unwanted, is this something that will get better or is that his age showing!
My question is, should I leave and try meet someone else who wants to settle down have kids and grown old together, should I stay and make him happy but miserable, what should I do ?