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lolitta1992
Jul 2, 2012, 10:02 PM
I moved from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him after he proposed to me ( We've in distance relationship for 2 years ) Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yell at me and threaten to hit me. Now I move back to California and left my forniture !
He doesn't want to give it to me back ( couch , bed , dishes and other things ) I I gave him his ring back
He text me saying another girl is coming tonight and we going to enjoy your couch
I feeel so angry! All my stuff that rest there worth about more than 2000$ I was stupid ! I thought he was a good man and I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding
I can't go again to Ohio or file a claim because it will cost me a lot of money
Its been now 2 month ago and I getting more obsessed about him and getting his Facebook password ,I feel so depressed ! I can't eat or sleep

He hurted me a lot and I want him to suffer too

JWASKE
Jul 3, 2012, 03:30 AM
You sound very sweet. Nice. And... naïve. Take this as a lesson learned because there's a lot of guys that will do this again. Unfortunately for you, aside from legal action, there's not much you can do. Unless you go over there with some big

JWASKE
Jul 3, 2012, 03:31 AM
Friends or police escort.

joypulv
Jul 3, 2012, 05:32 AM
I sympathize with the wish for revenge (or even the more realistic and practical small claims suit, which would be a slam dunk if you weren't 2,000 miles away). It's better to fantasize revenge than it is to get horribly depressed, so keep the anger alive. Just don't do it alone! You need friends and family to tell you over and over what a CREEP he is. Otherwise the anger just festers and turns into depression anyway.
We all make relationship mistakes, and some cost us money too. Try to think of the furniture as tainted with memories of him that you are better off leaving behind. What you could do is itemize all the possessions, find receipts or charge card statements for them, type up a formal 'invoice' and send it to him, saying a lawyer is next. He may laugh or he may get worried, who knows.
Facebook password? Forget it! Even if you got in, you would regret the consequences. It isn't that hard to contact Facebook to report such things and have people sanctioned, from what I have heard.
You learned from this, I hope: don't move far away to be with someone you don't know a heck of a lot better than one that was long distance.