And won't let us see the grandchildren, everything was fine until last month until l spanked the 5 year old who my wife watches during to day for hitting his big special needs brother with the remote control. She came a got the kids accusing me of being mean and terrible and making her the way she is, Two days later I get an Email saying I am dead to her and she wants nothing to do with me , the next week my daughter picked up the grandkids from my wife who was watching them and accused my wife of being a drug addict for taking pain meds for her arthritic pain and said she is cut off from her and her family. She has blocked us on her phone and had all her family do the same and blocked us on Facebook, she has gone so far as to contact my wife brothers and sisters who also blocked my wife. I don't know what she is telling everyone. Prior to this my daughter and I spoke every day and she had told my wife what a great mother and grandmother she is. I work out of state and now my wife is alone with No support system or transportation as we live in a rural area, my wife and I are devastated and numb. I came home for the July 4th week and don't know what to do, go back and make money to support us or say and die a slow death and lose everything we have worked for? We have numerous Cats and a dog and she just can't pick up and move with me right now.

And won't let us see the grandchildren, everything was fine until last month until l spanked the 5 year old who my wife watches during to day for hitting his big special needs brother with the remote control. She came a got the kids accusing me of being mean and terrible and making her the way she is, Two days later I get an Email saying I am dead to her and she wants nothing to do with me , the next week my daughter picked up the grandkids from my wife who was watching them and accused my wife of being a drug addict for taking pain meds for her arthritic pain and said she is cut off from her and her family. She has blocked us on her phone and had all her family do the same and blocked us on facebook, she has gone so far as to contact my wife brothers and sisters who also blocked my wife. I don't know what she is telling everyone. Prior to this my daughter and I spoke every day and she had told my wife what a great mother and grandmother she is. I work out of state and now my wife is alone with No support system or transportation as we live in a rural area, my wife and I are devastated and numb. I came home for the July 4th week and don't know what to do, go back and make money to support us or say and die a slow death and lose everything we have worked for? We have numerous Cats and a dog and she just can't pick up and move with me right now.


I'm confused - your wife is disabled and has no support system but watched two children, one of them 5 years old, on a daily basis?

What does your daughter mean that it's your fault that she turned out the way she did? How did she turn out?

Sounds like everyone went out of control based on what your daughter said. I honestly can't figure why.

As far as spanking is concerned I would NOT put up with someone else physically punishing my children. There's a swat in the pants and then there's spanking.

Your daughter has unresolved issues - I don't think you can do anything but sit back and see what happens next.