MGL1956
Jul 2, 2012, 12:33 PM
My eldest son chose not to invite me (his father) to his wedding (he is 29 now). He sided with his mother in our divorce eight years ago. I have spoken with him maybe a dozen times in those years, but have made repeated efforts (letters written, telephone, email, Facebook, text messages, etc.) to initiate a discussion with him from the time the divorce was in process right up until just days before the wedding, when it had been clear for months that I would not be invited. All but one of those has been ignored, and the one time we did meet face to face, he assured me he would come visit and talk things through with his dad, although that never happened. I have remembered him and all of my sons on their birthdays, at Christmas, and at other times throughout the years. It is difficult to see them often face to face, as I have lived over 900 miles away now for the past three years.
I get along fine with his three younger brothers, and am deeply hurt by his actions. I love all of my children, and always will. I had asked his mother to discuss "doing what's right" with him, but I don't believe that discussion happened. I did not divorce my children, but I did divorce their mother. Infidelity played no role in it, but he has been convinced that their father "abandoned the family" when I decided to divorce their mother.
Is there any situation where his actions would be appropriate?
I get along fine with his three younger brothers, and am deeply hurt by his actions. I love all of my children, and always will. I had asked his mother to discuss "doing what's right" with him, but I don't believe that discussion happened. I did not divorce my children, but I did divorce their mother. Infidelity played no role in it, but he has been convinced that their father "abandoned the family" when I decided to divorce their mother.
Is there any situation where his actions would be appropriate?