I met this American guy 3 yrs ago. We met online. We spent every single second of everyday talking. We even left the camera and the sounds on when we went to sleep. It took me 3 yrs to get a visa to go to America. I took all sorts of exams, I tried so hard and finally I got into a school, got the visa and left my country, my friends and my comfortable life for him. We were so in love, talked about marriage etc etc. I went there, we met, I had the roughest year in my life. I had to deal with all the new things in my life. The language, the culture, the new rules, new people, new school, new relationship.. I did my best. There were times that I was so frustrated, and I missed home. He had my back like we had promised each other. Then I found emails from him to his ex fiancée, begging him to go back to him. She had just wished him well and had said she had moved on. But me seeing the emails ruined everything. Then I found nude pictures of her that he kept.. and we started to fight... I had to stay with him for the past two months until I found a place. And I did. This apartment next to his building. I was happy. I was going home for the summer, I had a new apartment to go back to. And the best, we had this trip planned in August that I would join him somewhere in the middle on my way back to America. I got my new place. He helped me move, took me to the airport, kissed me goodbye and I got home. Then I started calling him. He was out all the time, not answering his phone, and when I asked about it, he was cold and mean. Told me he has not missed me like he should and was not sure he loved me. Said he needed a break to figure things out. I was shocked. Two weeks has passed. I got an email from him yesterday saying he has not met anybody. Is not with anybody and still plans to meet for the trip but is still trying to figure out what he wants in life and if he can fit other things in his life or not. I asked him not to go on the trip unless he wishes to be a couple again. I don't want to go as friends. I asked him to let me know. Of course he has not responded. I will leave in a month for this trip. I'm freaking out. I'm afraid he wants to dump me. I cry all the time. I have nightmares. I am not able to enjoy the summer I waited so much for to meet my parents and my friends. I pray that he shows up at the resort and wants to be a couple again but I'm so confused. If he dumps me, I have to go back to America. All alone. In the city that I have nobody. I have to live alone and deal with the break up alone in the same neighbourhood that I have lived with him. Every place is a memory. He has his job, his friends, he has fun. But I will just die alone. I'm freaking out. I ruined my life for him and he screwed me over like it's nothing. I'm 31. He's 35. I'm a strong and beautiful girl. I have had many break ups. But this is different. I moved from another continent for this guy. I left everything and everyone behind. It's not fair. I'm respecting the break. Not contacting him like he asked. But I'm going crazy. I'm freaking out. I need help. What should I do. What happened to all those promises?

I met this American guy 3 yrs ago. We met online. We spent every single second of everyday talking. We even left the camera and the sounds on when we went to sleep. It took me 3 yrs to get a visa to go to America. I took all sorts of exams, I tried so hard and finally I got into a school, got the visa and left my country, my friends and my comfortable life for him. We were so in love, talked about marriage etc etc. I went there, we met, I had the roughest year in my life. I had to deal with all the new things in my life. The language, the culture, the new rules, new people, new school, new relationship.. I did my best. There were times that I was so frustrated, and I missed home. He had my back like we had promised each other. Then I found emails from him to his ex fiancee, begging him to go back to him. She had just wished him well and had said she had moved on. But me seeing the emails ruined everything. Then I found nude pictures of her that he kept..and we started to fight...I had to stay with him for the past two months until I found a place. and I did. This apartment next to his building. I was happy. I was going home for the summer, I had a new apartment to go back to. And the best, we had this trip planned in August that I would join him somewhere in the middle on my way back to America. I got my new place. He helped me move, took me to the airport, kissed me goodbye and I got home. Then I started calling him. He was out all the time, not answering his phone, and when I asked about it, he was cold and mean. Told me he has not missed me like he should and was not sure he loved me. Said he needed a break to figure things out. I was shocked. Two weeks has passed. I got an email from him yesterday saying he has not met anybody. Is not with anybody and still plans to meet for the trip but is still trying to figure out what he wants in life and if he can fit other things in his life or not. I asked him not to go on the trip unless he wishes to be a couple again. I don't want to go as friends. I asked him to let me know. Of course he has not responded. I will leave in a month for this trip. I'm freaking out. I'm affraid he wants to dump me. I cry all the time. I have nightmares. I am not able to enjoy the summer I waited so much for to meet my parents and my friends. I pray that he shows up at the resort and wants to be a couple again but I'm so confused. If he dumps me, I have to go back to America. All alone. In the city that I have nobody. I have to live alone and deal with the break up alone in the same neighbourhood that I have lived with him. Every place is a memory. He has his job, his friends, he has fun. But I will just die alone. I'm freaking out. I ruined my life for him and he screwed me over like it's nothing. I'm 31. He's 35. I,m a strong and beautiful girl. I have had many break ups. But this is different. I moved from another continent for this guy. I left everything and everyone behind. It,s not fair. I'm respecting the break. Not contacting him like he asked. But I'm going crazy. I'm freaking out. I need help. What should I do. What happened to all those promises?
That's life...



What did you expect... people to be different in another country?

This is going to sound harsh... but did you live some place that had no men... just women? Since I'm sure there are lots of men everyplace... why did you not look for someone local to you instead of putting all your eggs in one basket expectign to move across the world with nothing more than a hope and a dream.

Sorry, but as I guess you found out... the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.

It seemed really irresponsible of you to do all that then lay it all on him... most long distance relationships turn out bad... for one reason or another.

And moving to another country for a guy or girl you never met in person before is pretty extreme. Speaking as someone that spent a number of years overseas because of a job that took me over there and back. Not someone...

I'm in the same situation as u !
I moved from California to a small town in Ohio to be with him after he proposed to me ( We've in distance relationship for 2 years ) Every time he get angry , he start telling me bad and mean words. He yell at me and threaten to hit me. Now I move back to California and left my forniture !
He doesn't want to give it to me back ( couch , bed , dishes and other things ) I I gave him his ring back
He text me saying another girl is coming tonight and we going to enjoy your couch
I feeel so angry! All my stuff that rest there worth about more than 2000$ I was stupid ! I thought he was a good man and I got so excited for having my fairytale wedding
I can't go again to Ohio or file a claim because it will cost me a lot of money
Its been now 2 month ago and I getting more obsessed about him and getting his Facebook password ,I feel so depressed ! I can't eat or sleep

He hurted me a lot and I want him to suffer too


Just try to move on and forget about him