muskrats21
Jul 2, 2012, 12:21 PM
I'll try to keep this as short as possible, but it's complicated. Some of you are not going to like some of what you hear, but I already realize my flaws.
Was married for 15 years. The last 2 or 3 really went downhill to the point I just didn't want to be there anymore. Met a girl and started seeing her. Yes... I know (not cool by me doing it that way). Anyway, we end up falling MADLY in love with each other. End up moving in together, planning out lives together etc...
In the meantime I was still legally married. My wife moved on and lived with our 3 sons with someone else. It was a little problem with my girlfriend the fact that I was still legally married. However as time went on it really became a non issue. It was as if we were separated.
By the way I'm 40 she's 27. My GF met my kids, parent, etc.. Everything was cool. There was at first a slight issue as to her being young and acquiring me with the kids, but as time went on she became a part of it.
We really had fun together and got along great. Out of the blue (we had a mini kind of fight for a few days) she broke it off with me after 4 years! I gave up my life for her and she told me she wanted me forever. I left one morning kind of not speaking to each other. She packed my stuff and told me she didn't want this relationship anymore. Said it's not what she wants. Second guessing being 27 and taking it all on, not knowing what she wants to do with her life. Littereally first time I ever remember even fighting. Her mother talked to me and tells me she loves me still but just looking at her future.
Here's the thing. Needless to say I am a complete mess. I love this girl more than anything. And I know she loves me. We were everything to each other. So... before doing some research on how to handle it, I... welll went a little nuts texting her begging, do anything in the world, trying to make her think about it logically. Everything you're not supposed to do (for about a week).
Then I learned about this NC thing. My question is, am I done? Have I pushed her too far to never come back? Kick myself in the rear every second now and wished I never contacted her at all since she broke up with me. I really think she's making a mistake.. Nobody will make her happier than me. And I really am having a hard time with the whole thing. I can't eat... I puke, I can't sleep, I can hardly get through a day of work. I sit here wondering how and why and litteraly walking in circles. And it's not getting any better.
Also, she acts as if it doesn't even phase her. Emotionless.. almost mad. Last thing she said was stop nothing will change my mind it's the right decision and what I'm doing. How can it be humanely possible to flick the switch? Does she not miss me at all? Not reflect on all the good memories and times? Really don't get it.
Was married for 15 years. The last 2 or 3 really went downhill to the point I just didn't want to be there anymore. Met a girl and started seeing her. Yes... I know (not cool by me doing it that way). Anyway, we end up falling MADLY in love with each other. End up moving in together, planning out lives together etc...
In the meantime I was still legally married. My wife moved on and lived with our 3 sons with someone else. It was a little problem with my girlfriend the fact that I was still legally married. However as time went on it really became a non issue. It was as if we were separated.
By the way I'm 40 she's 27. My GF met my kids, parent, etc.. Everything was cool. There was at first a slight issue as to her being young and acquiring me with the kids, but as time went on she became a part of it.
We really had fun together and got along great. Out of the blue (we had a mini kind of fight for a few days) she broke it off with me after 4 years! I gave up my life for her and she told me she wanted me forever. I left one morning kind of not speaking to each other. She packed my stuff and told me she didn't want this relationship anymore. Said it's not what she wants. Second guessing being 27 and taking it all on, not knowing what she wants to do with her life. Littereally first time I ever remember even fighting. Her mother talked to me and tells me she loves me still but just looking at her future.
Here's the thing. Needless to say I am a complete mess. I love this girl more than anything. And I know she loves me. We were everything to each other. So... before doing some research on how to handle it, I... welll went a little nuts texting her begging, do anything in the world, trying to make her think about it logically. Everything you're not supposed to do (for about a week).
Then I learned about this NC thing. My question is, am I done? Have I pushed her too far to never come back? Kick myself in the rear every second now and wished I never contacted her at all since she broke up with me. I really think she's making a mistake.. Nobody will make her happier than me. And I really am having a hard time with the whole thing. I can't eat... I puke, I can't sleep, I can hardly get through a day of work. I sit here wondering how and why and litteraly walking in circles. And it's not getting any better.
Also, she acts as if it doesn't even phase her. Emotionless.. almost mad. Last thing she said was stop nothing will change my mind it's the right decision and what I'm doing. How can it be humanely possible to flick the switch? Does she not miss me at all? Not reflect on all the good memories and times? Really don't get it.