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urmamawarndu
Jul 2, 2012, 11:07 AM
I love my two girls... my oldest 11 and youngest 2, the 11 yr old and I were separated when she was 3 to 7 and now having my 2 yr old I feel this bond that's deep and connected. My 11 yr old not so much, sometimes I think whose kid are you, since my 2 yr was born the oldest says I don't love her as much.. is it that visible.. I feel bad I should love my girls equally. I feel like a bad mom to my 11 yr old, I just don't know how to let her know I love her as much, its different in my heart I feel like a tty person, I feel like I'm destroying my 11 yr old.am I wrong , I try and try to connect with her with no luck. How do I change the way I feel
JudyKayTee
Jul 2, 2012, 11:16 AM
You go for professional counselling before she is scarred for life - it will help you both.
You are unhappy with the present situation and so is she - you need to find peace for both of you.
Mobley119
Jul 4, 2012, 11:18 PM
Agree with Judy. You need family counseling ASAP. And also it would be good if you spent some quality time with her consistently. Maybe once a week, like every Sunday, you do something just you and her... like go get virgin daquaries and an appetizer at a restaurant and just talk. Also, my mom used to give massages to my half-sister (her step daughter) every night at that age and they'd talk before bed and that with counseling made them really close.