Hi there
I have been dating this girl for almost half a year now, she is fantastic, everything I look for in a girl, when we started I thought it was going great, we were having sex as much as possible, talking to each other all the time, making each other laugh and just generally enjoying each others company. I get on with all her friends and generally like them. I'm extremely laid back, not clingy ( well making myself not clingy by not bothering her all the time with how I'm feeling although I have spoken to her about it on several occasions. She told me she doesn't like talking about her problems, not even to her friends, so when she is in a bad mood she will just be quieter than usual which sometimes I think is my fault because she doesn't communicate with me. Its caused me to loose my confidence in her company, making me more quiet which sometimes can lead to an awkward silence. She won't sit next to me sometimes watching TV, its weird she just sits on a different sofa, not a big deal or anything I could be being pathetic but its not like I bite. She wouldn't have done that at the start. She told me that all her previous relationships were short because she ended up pushing them away at some point in. I never thought she would do this with me because we were having such a great time. But recently over the last 4-5 weeks she has become distant, not texting me like she use to, the sexual tension isn't as strong as it use to be and its made it hard for me to see where her heads at. I don't want to make this girl uncomfortable or feel pressured by this annoying guy but I feel as if she's almost embarrassed to be with me sometimes by her lack of affection. I know this is all new to her! She doesn't know how to act around me she told me last night when she was drunk, it was the first time though she kissed me in public which felt awesome. But we left it again on an awkward silence and its eating me alive. Ill be patient if this will take time but what would you do in this situation?

If she has fears about relationships, commitments or going deeper (and it sounds like she does) - or if she has issues or feelings that she's uncomfortable sharing with anyone - much less you...

1) Remember that some people just cannot express pain or fears.. it's really hard for them. This has nothing to do with you! Don't be responsible for her feelings -- give her time and don't try to "fix" her. Don't feel guilty or automatically assume it's your "fault".. she's responsible for her reactions. When she feels like it, she'll talk about it or she'll calm down later on. Prying and poking is the worst thing you can do.

2) If she's rocking your confidence and even though you claim you're "laid back and not clingy" (trying to act that way at least) them maybe you have a little more work to do on yourself esteem or feelings about yourself coming from YOU and not from how she's acting. Chances are you FEEL a little clingy because you have all these personalized reactions to how she acts.

3) If she's embarrassed or gets distant or struggles with relationship - she might get over this... this definitely happened to ME when I was the one who would grow distant. I stopped sitting on the other sofa, avoiding my mate in public and in general being weird. Give her space and time -- keep talking and communicating but wait until she's open. You know what won't work? You acting weird, silent and strange because you're constantly trying to figure out where her head is at and trying to protect yourself. --- Chill out a little bit if you can. Focus on other things... and when you're with her focus on ENJOYING time with her for those old reasons.. if you lighten up... and feel confident chances are she'll follow your lead. -- You're probably sending out "Distance" vibes too with how confused you are... admit it. When's the last time you were relaxed and funny and felt comfy texting or talking ? Awkward silence means you're distancing too!!

Good luck