I'm a 14 year old girl. Now that school's out I'm bummed out..
In one of my classes there was a boy I didn't notice until a couple of weeks ago when he sat near me and we chatted. I think he's very attractive, funny and friendly(: I don't know him too much but he's in my grade(also 14) and I can't get him out of my head!
I've had thoughts about waiting till school starts and maybe trying to be friends first and maybe then he will like me back.. When I talk to him I get nauseous :P

Please give me some tips and help! Thanks in advance
-Talia

Just enjoy your summer and be a kid. You trying to grow up to fast. I promise you not ready.

Just enjoy your summer and be a kid. You trying to grow up to fast. I promise you not ready.

Being a teen is all about your social life.. Especially your friends and GUYS fill your head.. I can't really help myself when I like someone.. :P

Girl I know how you feel is is deffinate tourment thinking about it my answer is think clearly and tell this supposed hottie that you enjoyed having a conversation with him and would love to do it again

P.S. u go girl you do it and don't get held back and seriously follow your own advice unlike me love Sharni

Sharni, thank you so much for making me feel good about myself and secure about my feelings.. (:

Sharni, thank you soo much for making me feel good about myself and secure about my feelings..(:

That's OK being 14 myself it is totes hard to let a hottie know that you like him

P.S. can you help with my question please? GOOD LUCK

thats ok being 14 myself it is totes hard to let a hottie kno that u like him

P.S. can u help with my
question plz? GOOD LUCK

Haha you its hard:P
Sure, what's your question? Can you send a link?
Thanks, good luck to you too!

I might as well write it, you see I'm having trouble getting the male species attracted .most just ask them out and seem easy.me I have to get to know the guy but the we are too "friends" to date.how do t get a guy without seeming easy

i might as well write it, u see i'm having trouble getting the male species attracted .most just ask them out and seem easy.me i have to get to know the guy but the we are too "friends" to date.how do t get a guy without seeming easy

Please please please heellpp me you seem genuine

girl i know how u feel is is deffinate tourment thinking about it my answer is think clearly and tell this supposed hottie that u enjoyed having a convo with him and would luv to do it again

P.S. u go girl u do it and don't get held back and seriously follow your own advice unlike me luv Sharni


Could you try this again without the text speak in a language I might understand?

You've been reminded about the text speak before.

plz plz plz heellpp me u seem genuine


You realize you just quoted and answered yourself, right?

You realize you just quoted and answered yourself, right?
Not everybody has knowledge of every detail on this site Judy and Scott!

Not everybody has knowledge of every detail on this site Judy and Scott!

It's not hard to figure out. It's a very easy layout. Very very easy.

There's really no excuse. If you can't use the site correctly, watch, learn, and ask before you start using the site. That's what the rest of us did.

Also, reading the rules, which clearly state that chat speak isn't allowed (not you, but the other posters on this thread), would also be a good idea.

It's not hard to figure out. It's a very easy layout. Very very easy.

There's really no excuse. If you can't use the site correctly, watch, learn, and ask before you start using the site. That's what the rest of us did.

Also, reading the rules, which clearly state that chat speak isn't allowed (not you, but the other posters on this thread), would also be a good idea.
I have limited access on a cell phone to this site.

I have limited access on a cell phone to this site.

That's you. Judy's post wasn't directed at you, it was directed at sgree175, yet you jumped in, for some reason, to defend the poster that isn't following the rules of this site (read her other posts), or posting correctly. Or do you happen to know that she's also using a cell phone to access this site?

Either way, cell phone or not, chat speak isn't allowed on this site, and really, it's not a hard site to navigate or post on. You seem to be managing okay, so why can't someone that is likely posting from a computer?

Sharni, about your question:
I think its important to get to know a person you like before dating him, otherwise you don't know a thing about each other!

Try to be friends, meaning he now trusts you, and flirt with him.. Smile at him a lot (not too much. ), if you have a close enough relationship maybe hug him(:

Make sure you're giving him his space and try to let him know (again, by flirting) that you're not stuck in the friendzone!

Hope I Helped :D Best of Luckk!

Sharni, about your question:
I think its important to get to know a person you like before dating him, otherwise you don't know a thing about eachother!

Try to be friends, meaning he now trusts you, and flirt with him..Smile at him a lot (not too much.!), if you have a close enough relationship maybe hug him(:

Make sure you're giving him his space and try to let him know (again, by flirting) that you're not stuck in the friendzone!

Hope I Helped :D Best of Luckk!

So you're now advising a 14 year old child to flirt, and that it's okay to date?

At 14 she'll need parental consent to date, as will the boy. So advising her to flirt, and get to know him before she dates him, without knowing if her parents will even allow her to date, is very premature.

Well excuse me but my parents were always very understanding and my sister had a boyfriend at 7th grade, and in 6th grade one day I just told my sister and mom I had a boyfriend because I wasn't going to hide it and my mom was just happy for me

So if you think the best way is to let your kids go out at 17 sorry but you should trust them.

And one more thing, when people ask questions on this site I am allowed to say my opinion and how I see the solution to be right.

Well excuse me but my parents were always very understanding and my sister had a boyfriend at 7th grade, and in 6th grade one day I just told my sister and mom I had a boyfriend because I wasn't going to hide it and my mom was just happy for me

So if you think the best way is to let your kids go out at 17 sorry but you should trust them.

It's not about how understanding your parents are, or how I feel. It's about the law, and the parents of the poster, and the parents of the guy she wants to date. If the parents don't agree that she's ready to date at 14, and she doesn't listen, sneaks off, she could be in a lot of trouble.

What your parents would do doesn't matter, since your parents aren't her parents. What I would do doesn't matter, since I'm not her mother. It's up to her parents, which is why your advice is not valid.

You're making it personal, and not going with the facts. You can't change facts.

And one more thing, when people ask questions on this site I am allowed to say my opinion and how I see the solution to be right.

You can offer your opinion, but if you post something that's against the law you will be corrected. You cannot give harmful advice to anyone on this site, which is what you did.

Your opinion is only as valid as the facts surrounding it. If you give harmful advice expect to be called on it. This isn't a site where you can say whatever you want. We're a question and answer site, and people come here to get actual advice, not a child's opinion.

If you want to continue posting on this site stick to facts. You can't just say "My mommy lets me, so go ahead". That's not how real life works.

What I meant about my parents was that I was taught that there's nothing wrong with early dating because kids experiment! That's why I see it that way.

Sharni, you should try talking to you mom and ask her how she feels about dating! Maybe this will be your answer! :)

What I meant about my parents was that I was taught that there's nothing wrong with early dating because kids experiment! That's why I see it that way.

Sharni, you should try talking to you mom and ask her how she feels about dating! Maybe this will be your answer! :)

The last part of this post is the right answer. Now you're learning. :)

The OP should talk to her parents about this. But, if mom and dad say it's okay she still can't date the boy until his parents also agree.

I wasn't giving illegal advice! Dating a 20 year old is illegal when you're 14 but we didn't talk about that..

In the end, everyone does what they feel is right. I think that if you don't already know, ask your parents if they allow dating.Then you know what to do (if to date or not)

To me, some age may be younger than another, but a 5 year old thinks he's quite mature doesn't he? Everyone thinks they know best. I think everyone should have their own experience but that's what **I feel** meaning I feel it and I don't mean everyonr should be thinking this. You're getting me all wrong!

Yayy I'm learning! Haha

Yes, obviously if his parents won't let hom date then she can't date him..

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What I meant about my parents was that I was taught that there's nothing wrong with early dating because kids experiment! That's why I see it that way.


I had to respond to this. Just because your parents are too liberal and permissive doesn't make it right. In fact, I would argue that your parents need to wake up to the real world and put some limits on their children before it is too late.