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peoplethesedays
Jun 29, 2012, 09:38 PM
So there is this guy that rode the bus with me this year. He got off at the same stop and walked home with me often. We would flirt but this whole time he has had a girlfriend. I knew he had a girlfriend and I also had had a boyfriend. It got to summer and we have been texting a lot. I broke up with my boyfriend. His girlfriend is sort of overly protective and doesn’t want him talking to girls, so she doesn’t know we talk. We told each other that we like each other.

I see him a lot because he lives right down the street. Like I go on walks and he goes with me. He has talked about wanting to kiss me and do other stuff with me but I wasn’t sure and I would always say "maybe" or "I don’t know". It has gotten to where we would say "I love you baby" to each other. But he still has a girlfriend.

We have nicknames for each other. We call each other pillow pet. (it’s an inside thing) he went out of town a few days after me and him spent basically the entire day together from like 3 pm to 12:30 am. He was at my house that night. My parents said no automatically to him saying that they don’t like him. Now he’s out of town and we talk on the phone but the conversations just aren’t the same. We don’t call each other baby or say that we love each other anymore. Most people would say that it’s a good thing that we don’t like talk to each other that way anymore, but I look back and think of the REALLY late nights me and him would stay up late talking on the phone, trying to be as quiet as possible so my parents wouldn’t know I was awake.

I really like him. But I don't know what to do, so to wrap it up: I and he like each other but he has a girlfriend and my dad doesn’t like him. I don't know what to do... help? :/

joypulv
Jun 29, 2012, 11:00 PM
All that 'overly protective' girlfriend bit is a lot of baloney. What is she, his mother? He would break up with her if he wanted to get more involved with you, plain and simple. You lived near each other, you had fun for a while, now forget him.
You don't say why your parents don't like him?

peoplethesedays
Jun 29, 2012, 11:34 PM
Ya something about how he didn't look at them in the eye and didn't answer any of the questions they asked? Idk something like that

lauri2
Jun 30, 2012, 01:48 AM
I was replyng to sum1 else.. oops.. sory

Homegirl 50
Jun 30, 2012, 09:18 AM
If this guy really liked you, if he was really so miserable with his girlfriend he would not be with her he would be with you. He's not!

He is a cheater. Forget about him.

talaniman
Jun 30, 2012, 11:57 AM
Like you said, he has a girl friend so you should blow him off as long as he does, and even after he dumps her because you already know he will cheat behind his girl friends back.

Don't give your heart to one such as this, because he doesn't deserve it, so keep a safe distance between him, and your heart. Neighbors but no love, and he lies to get you to give him what he wants. Giving him anything at all would be foolish.

WisperWill70
Jun 30, 2012, 12:14 PM
I agree... if he has a girlfriend and hasn't broken up with her (and not as interested in you as you may hope -- though he's having fun flirting) -- it doesn't matter how you paint the girlfriend in your mind to be a bad guy or over protective or not cool - the real truth is: He's still with her! If he's cooled things off he may have a conscience about being a cheater.

I agree with all the posts above... you're young - focus on others and having fun and keep a distance from him because of how he's treating his girlfriend and because your parents said no.

Starting your dating and romance career as "the other woman" won't make you happy down the road.