My boyfriend and I are still virgins and we have dry sex (dry hump) a lot but I never do it in my underwear, I always have pants on, and so does he but they're all spandex, sometimes he wears jeans. Anyway, he cums but he claims it always goes to the side. Also, 9 our of 10 times I have pantie liners on. He says there's no way sperm can go through all those fabric layers. But I worry. ALSO, we shower sometimes together and he cummed when I gave him a hand job, later his penis glided on the outside of my vajina. I've always had a fear of pregnancy and I still worry about if the slipped inside me. I never track my period and I'm on it, but I've had horrible cramps that I usually never get with my period and I feel sleepy and if I think of it, I get terrified. And my boyfriend is really getting annoyed with me because he says sperm can't survive that long in the air and the water washes it away. But I really don't understand, I'm scared. Am I just paranoid? Or is it possible?

I'll answer a question with a question and sort of an answer.

Answer first - he is probably right BUT people get pregnant in showers and pools. I wouldn't guarantee anything.

Rather than being scared wouldn't birth control be easier? I'm always afraid that one form of sex play leads to another and one day you throw caution to the winds and - surprise!

You really do need to protect yourself - and he really does need to protect you.

You need to educate yourself on sex and pregnancy. It appears you have no clue how pregnancy occurs. There is no chance you could be pregnant by these encounters.

Until you educate yourself, it would be best if you refrain completely from sexual activity so that you do not find yourself pregnant.


I still worry about if the slipped inside me If you don't know whether he was inside you, it's quite apparent you don't have the first clue as to how sex works.

How old are the two of you?

I'm not sure what "gliding on the outside of her vagina" means. Did I err on the side of caution?

I have a friend (doesn't everyone know someone who... ) who swears she "only" had sex in the shower, not intercourse, just "fooling around." Perhaps his sperm could hold its breath for a long time. I don't really know.