ndhoward
Jun 29, 2012, 07:12 AM
My girlfriend of 3 years just broke up with me, and I really don't why.
I was 16 and she was 15 when I met her on a holiday (yes, your probably going to say I'm only young) and we fell in love instantly. After a couple of days on the holiday, we got to know each other so well, and when I left to go home, we still kept in contact.
However, we lived miles apart. I lived in South Wales, and she lived in Southampton. We kept in contact, and I went to visit her regularly, travelling on trains for about 4 hours once a month for a week, for 3 years. Of course the distance was tough, but we loved each other so much, and talked to each other every day since we left each other on holiday. Everything was so great, her mother was so kind and her family was great! We talked about kids and marriage and I knew she loved me as much as I loved her.
When I turned 18, things started to change.. I wanted to go out clubbing all the time, and after criticism from friends telling me to finish her, I stupidly thought about it.. but I didn't go through with it because she was such an amazing girl. This was the time when she would text me, and I wouldn't reply for hours because I would forget, whereas before she was constantly on my mind, 24/7. We hit a rough patch, and I'm not going to lie I didn't treat her the best. I wouldn't get my priorities right, and would go out too play pool, darts etc when she was down to see me. I regret it so much and that's why I changed for her.
After that, everything was going great. I even booked a holiday for 2 weeks to go back to the same place where we met, cost me £670 for her. It was great. But when she turned 18, she started to go out a lot. I wasn't used to it, so I would text her asking where she was and wouldn't give her time alone to enjoy herself. One night, she didn't text me all night. Eventually, I rang her at 5:30am where she was still out, but was waiting for a lift home. I didn't have a problem with that, I was just so annoyed at the fact she didn't even text me. We had an argument, which was my fault and she started to become moody, whereas before, she would just forgive and forget about silly little arguments. She would now be blunt and in a mood with me for hours. I told her she was becoming the person I used to be. She said she wasn't, but I knew she was changing. After this argument, she said she didn't know if she wanted to be with me. I was gutted, but she realised that it was only a phase and that she still loves me. The week after I went to see her. We had such a great week! I treated her to food and took her out, as she only has a Saturday job which she earns £40.
After I came home, I noticed she had changed again. She used to text me every night before she went to bed, saying how much she loves and stuff. She stopped doing this and I asked her about it. She said she didn't want to have this conversation. I pestered her into telling me the truth. The next day she told me that she didn't love me as much anymore. I was in tears. She said that I should give her a couple of days to think about it, but during this time, I couldn't eat or sleep and it was effecting my job. Just waiting for an answer of her was killing me. She also mentioned that the distance was a problem and I tried my hardest to convince her that I was in the same position as her when I turned 18. Eventually, after work one day I broke down on the phone asking her to give me a decision because it was effecting my life. She said she wanted to be single, which is understandable to a certain point that she was just turned 18. I was absolutely heartbroken.
I asked her to give me the true reason why she finished with me. She said it was the distance, but also she felt weird from the first argument we had (the 5:30am call). I went crazy and asked her why she lied to my face saying everything was okay. She said she thought it was another phase, but it wasn't. I kept texting her, asking her to think about it. She said by me texting her all the time is not giving her time to think.
I want to move on, just in case she doesn't change her mind. But I'm fooling myself thinking she's going to take me back. I asked her 5 days after we broke up if she misses me, and she just said I can't really answer that question, I'm just enjoying myself at the moment.
I'm 19 now. It's 2 weeks until I go on holiday, I don't know how I'm going to cope. I'm madly in love with her and I really want her to change her mind. She's reassured me that she doesn't want to see anyone else and will let me know if she's made a mistake. I want to wait, but I don't because if I get my hopes up, and she doesn't change her mind, I'm going to be even more heartbroken..
Anyway, sorry for such a long story, can anyone give me help and advice on what to do? Can anyone tell me that her signals are suggesting that she might take me back?
I was 16 and she was 15 when I met her on a holiday (yes, your probably going to say I'm only young) and we fell in love instantly. After a couple of days on the holiday, we got to know each other so well, and when I left to go home, we still kept in contact.
However, we lived miles apart. I lived in South Wales, and she lived in Southampton. We kept in contact, and I went to visit her regularly, travelling on trains for about 4 hours once a month for a week, for 3 years. Of course the distance was tough, but we loved each other so much, and talked to each other every day since we left each other on holiday. Everything was so great, her mother was so kind and her family was great! We talked about kids and marriage and I knew she loved me as much as I loved her.
When I turned 18, things started to change.. I wanted to go out clubbing all the time, and after criticism from friends telling me to finish her, I stupidly thought about it.. but I didn't go through with it because she was such an amazing girl. This was the time when she would text me, and I wouldn't reply for hours because I would forget, whereas before she was constantly on my mind, 24/7. We hit a rough patch, and I'm not going to lie I didn't treat her the best. I wouldn't get my priorities right, and would go out too play pool, darts etc when she was down to see me. I regret it so much and that's why I changed for her.
After that, everything was going great. I even booked a holiday for 2 weeks to go back to the same place where we met, cost me £670 for her. It was great. But when she turned 18, she started to go out a lot. I wasn't used to it, so I would text her asking where she was and wouldn't give her time alone to enjoy herself. One night, she didn't text me all night. Eventually, I rang her at 5:30am where she was still out, but was waiting for a lift home. I didn't have a problem with that, I was just so annoyed at the fact she didn't even text me. We had an argument, which was my fault and she started to become moody, whereas before, she would just forgive and forget about silly little arguments. She would now be blunt and in a mood with me for hours. I told her she was becoming the person I used to be. She said she wasn't, but I knew she was changing. After this argument, she said she didn't know if she wanted to be with me. I was gutted, but she realised that it was only a phase and that she still loves me. The week after I went to see her. We had such a great week! I treated her to food and took her out, as she only has a Saturday job which she earns £40.
After I came home, I noticed she had changed again. She used to text me every night before she went to bed, saying how much she loves and stuff. She stopped doing this and I asked her about it. She said she didn't want to have this conversation. I pestered her into telling me the truth. The next day she told me that she didn't love me as much anymore. I was in tears. She said that I should give her a couple of days to think about it, but during this time, I couldn't eat or sleep and it was effecting my job. Just waiting for an answer of her was killing me. She also mentioned that the distance was a problem and I tried my hardest to convince her that I was in the same position as her when I turned 18. Eventually, after work one day I broke down on the phone asking her to give me a decision because it was effecting my life. She said she wanted to be single, which is understandable to a certain point that she was just turned 18. I was absolutely heartbroken.
I asked her to give me the true reason why she finished with me. She said it was the distance, but also she felt weird from the first argument we had (the 5:30am call). I went crazy and asked her why she lied to my face saying everything was okay. She said she thought it was another phase, but it wasn't. I kept texting her, asking her to think about it. She said by me texting her all the time is not giving her time to think.
I want to move on, just in case she doesn't change her mind. But I'm fooling myself thinking she's going to take me back. I asked her 5 days after we broke up if she misses me, and she just said I can't really answer that question, I'm just enjoying myself at the moment.
I'm 19 now. It's 2 weeks until I go on holiday, I don't know how I'm going to cope. I'm madly in love with her and I really want her to change her mind. She's reassured me that she doesn't want to see anyone else and will let me know if she's made a mistake. I want to wait, but I don't because if I get my hopes up, and she doesn't change her mind, I'm going to be even more heartbroken..
Anyway, sorry for such a long story, can anyone give me help and advice on what to do? Can anyone tell me that her signals are suggesting that she might take me back?