jessa90
Jun 29, 2012, 03:44 AM
I am lesbian and I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. At first things were fine. We were together nearly three months. We sometimes had fallouts because she told me I hurt her when I didn't trust. I didn't trust her fully and I realise this is what hurt her. Towards the end of the relationship she would be more distant with me and spend less time talking online to me. She fell out with me because I thought she was still online when she'd gone offline. The site said still online and I thought was she chatting to another girl on a dating site? We made up after two days and I told her sorry and she said to me she was about to give up and thinking how can she be with me if I don't trust her? We did make up on the phone she said things like lets move forward I don't want to go thorugh that again. Things seemed fine until a week later when she told me she just wants to be friends. We spoke as friends for a day then had no contact for two weeks. She recontacted me . When I appologize she says its fine when I appologize for everything and for hurting her before. But when I try to ask does she want to start again she says I'm sorry I just want to be friends or I'm sorry I can only be your friend. It seems no matter what I try she's putting up resistance and I don't know how can I break through this resistance to get back with her? Please can I have help quickly? Because she's changed her profile on the dating site to say I'm looking for you but it still says looking for friendship. I'm worried some other girl will get her. Please please help me quickly? I need to show her that I'll treat her right this time. Please tell me how to break through the resistance she is putting up. I read about a seed letter technique but is this advisable or could this blow my chances all together? I've read that I'm supposed to agree to the breakup to remove resistance? Is this correct or will this ruin my chances? Thanks for the help