Hello to all,

I know this issue has come up so much already, but I thought I'd get an opinion or two on it any way. I've been single for about two months now and still think about my ex girlfriend on average a couple of times a week. To explain my feelings a bit better I'll tell you about my relationship history with this girl. We met at work about a year ago (she wanted me to fall in love with her the moment she sore me apparently) so she started chatting me up as much as she could while we were at work together - weeks went buy and I finally asked her out for a day of weed and chill time together. We hung out as mates for a month of two and I slowly started to gain feelings for her, I wasn't attracted to her in that way when we first met but was starting to slowly change as the weeks went by.

We went out to the city bars together a couple of times and we ended up sleeping together (no cheeky business) twice. The second time we slept together I asked her if she wanted to have sex and she got abit weary and said not just yet, which I respected and did nothing to offend her. The send time we slept together I ended up kissing her and one thing led to another and ended up having SEX!Now this was a pretty big deal for me as it was my first time and clearly she wasn't a virgin haha - anyway the point is we were the best of friends, un detachable for over months - she moved in to my parents home for a month while she worked her way up with the company we worked for moving to different stores, gaining higher positions (she's extremely intelligent and so sexy) while I was stuck and complaining because I was still in the same ty position as when we first met and wasn't happy with where I was at career wise.

She finally found her own place in the centre of the BIG city with her new flat mate. This girl is very outgoing and extremely social, you ever love her or hate her kind of characteristics, most people liked her and boys found her attractive. So after a month or two living at her new place we decided to visit her parents for the weekend (she'd never done that with a boy before!) so we set out on our little adventure :) It was great! We ed all the time, pretty much every time we sore each other we'd have sex at least once or twice a day (not too sure if that's what having a girlfriends like) but it was great!

Anyway, after a wonderful trip we got back, went out for another couple of months and she sat me down one night and said she's thinking of moving to another country in a year and a half and we might need to talk about "us". This came to a bit of a shock to me, but I thought well, it's a year and a half away, we have plenty of time. Blah blah blah days went by with that thought on my mind until we sat down and had a big old ty chat about us breaking up because of her life dream of moving to this country. I got so up-set as I loved her so much and would anything to make her happy and I thought she felt the same, I told her I would move with her but she kept saying no.

After all that talk we eventually broke up all conversation with each other for two weeks to see what it would be like (it was ) and I would be a and text or call her once or twice a week for the two weeks. After that we met up and pretty much just had sex,smoked weed all day - non stop until her wit flat mate came home then that was it - over! She got picked up by her family and I went home on the bus to come home to no one :( I was depressed for a month - suicidal thoughts and started to get really angry at her. I would text her or call her really nasty stuff like: " You've broken my heart, I can't believe you done this to me" and called her once crying to her down the phone, because earlier I told her to go herself for going out with her friends drinking and having a good time while I sat at home home depressed as with knowone to get ed up with!

A month went by and I just started thinking negative thoughts about her so I called her up because I found out she got a head position in the company working at head office and I was confused why she was starting this new job and not moving to her beloved country! WHY DID WE BREAK UP THEN! So I called her and asked her (very angrily) and started ing at her and calling her scum pretty much until we settled down and chatted to each other. She told me she lost feelings for me a while before her 21'st birthday which was about 3months before we broke up and that she didn't love me anymore! I was devastated, so heart broken, and most of all ing hated the girl!

From there I texted her a couple of times a week abusing her,questioning her and just asking for my stuff back to get other her. I got my bed back (which she got very upset about) and now I'm asking for the money she owes me and agreed to pay me back, but now I have to text her through her step dad as she doesn't want to know me anymore which is understandable. I've texted her step dad asking to text her daughter my bank details and giving her two weeks to pay me back as it's now been three months to pay me a single dollar! I ing hate the girl, but still love her! I'm over her now, but still think of her. I keep thinking who she's with or if she's ed another boy - I think like this because I lost my virginity to her... I Think!

- Why do I keep having these thoughts?
- Is it normal? How did you guys get over this sort of situation?
- this question would be great to get multi sex answers - boy and girl opinions.

Sorry for the long story! It probably wasn't necessary haha.

Cheers.