I am a 35 year old female. I am recently married to the love of my life. We have a great sex life. I find myself more and more interested in BDSM, particularly being choked by a cock or submissive. I find myself wanting to have sex with other women and masturbating to those fantasies. I even get off on gay porn (men). Is this common for women? My husband is dominating sometimes; and I love it. My friends are horrified, though, that I like to eat his and gag on his cock. I rub one out in the bathroom at work almost every day. I want to eat a woman's so bad... how do I find someone willing to let me do that? Is it cheating? My husband wants to watch. I'm horny simply writing this. How normal am I?

Normal is subjective. Considering the vast spectrum of sexuality I think you're doing okay.

I think your fantasies are more something you should talk to your husband about. If he accept and gives you the go ahead then there shouldn't be a problem. The thing here is that you need to talk about it and set ground rules and STICK to the ground rules. IE, if you say no toys or no joining in then he sits and watches and you don't get to play with Mr. Buzz.

Where do you find someone? Craigs list pops out. Personal adds in the paper. Hire an escort? The key here is to talk to and vet the person before doing this. It is best if it is a stranger so that it can happen and be done with.

Clear communication and expectations are key here. If those aren't observed then things, like your marriage, could fall apart.

I half say this is a joke all things considered. But good luck in your endevours.

Normal is subjective. Considering the vast spectrum of sexuality I think you're doing okay.

I think your fantasies are more something you should talk to your husband about. If he accept adn gives you the go ahead then there shouldn't be a problem. The thing here is that you need to talk about it and set ground rules and STICK to the ground rules. IE, if you say no toys or no joining in then he sits and watches and you don't get to play with Mr. Buzz.

Where do you find someone? Craigs list pops out. Personal adds in the paper. Hire an escort? The key here is to talk to and vet the person before doing this. It is best if it is a stranger so that it can happen and be done with.

Clear communication and expectations are key here. If those aren't observed then things, like your marriage, could fall apart.

I half say this is a joke all things considered. But good luck in your endevours.

Thanks for quick reply. I talk to my husband, and he likes it all. Craigslist sounds scary, but I may check out personal ads elsewhere. One of my vices is I am extremely jealous, so I wouldn't want my man touching anyone. But he could watch. What are you half joking about, anyway? You had a good answer. :)

So your husband does no mind you being with other men and women ?

So your husband does no mind you being with other men and women ?

He would not like me to be with other men. He would like to watch me with a female friend of mine. I haven't suggested a stranger to him.

It's only cheating if both of you agree that it is. Think long and hard about inviting a "Friend" into your marital bed, however... since sexual play can often complicate relationships and friendships in unforeseen, disastrous ways. You might be better off to find a BDSM community and find those who are seeking "play only" connections.