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Mazda619
Jun 28, 2012, 12:14 AM
Ok well I posted a thing on here before saying I was gay/bi (at the time only probably said gay) and that I liked a guy (straight).

Since then and since last year when I first started working and thinking about this stuff, there always seems to be things that make my mind confused about what I am. Like at the moment I know I like boys but there is a girl who I extremely like and feel like asking out which makes me confused even more.

So this has 2 questions

1. Would it be a good or bad idea to ask this girl out when to be honest I still don't know if I am bi or gay.? Or would it just make me look like I have used her, if it ended badly and word got out I was gay instead of straight or bi? P.s. I would neve do that to anyone

2. How long does this cloud of uncertainty around knowing if you are gay, bi or straight last or does it depend more on the person?

The thing is which to me makes it harder is the fact I have never been in a relationship with anyone and I have never kissed any one of either sex. Which again makes my Life harder.

Thank you for reading this. Any help would be awesome as I am in chaos and I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

Wondergirl
Jun 28, 2012, 12:21 AM
How old are you?

Wondergirl
Jun 28, 2012, 12:26 AM
I see from other posts you are 17? If I were you, I'd date whoever caught my fancy. Your hormones still haven't settled down, so right now it's a trial-and-error thing. People are much more open-minded now than they were when I was your age (when dinosaurs roamed
Earth), so just be true to yourself and open to your own feelings.

Mazda619
Jun 28, 2012, 12:26 AM
By I probably should have added that in but I am 17

Mazda619
Jun 28, 2012, 12:28 AM
That's kind of the problem just when both my heart and my mind agree something major happens and then it goes back to how it was at the start, not knowing what I am for sure again

Homegirl 50
Jun 28, 2012, 12:43 PM
You don't have to label yourself anything. Just be you. I'm sure you will find many other girls and boys your age who are going through the same thing. This is normal.

Mazda619
Jun 28, 2012, 11:50 PM
Yeah I know that and I am trying to but it's hard to be me and to be true to myself with all this uncertainty. And another thing, what is the best way to ask a female out, in person or over text. I have no idea

Wondergirl
Jun 28, 2012, 11:52 PM
Best way is in person so you can project your sweet, charming self.

Mazda619
Jun 28, 2012, 11:56 PM
Yeah thanks I guess now it's trying to find the courage and the right time as I have never had to do this before.

Wondergirl
Jun 28, 2012, 11:58 PM
Let me know how it goes!

Mazda619
Jun 29, 2012, 12:03 AM
Yeah I will if I see her as at the moment where I live we have just started holidays. Unless I ask her over online ways but I will probably wait until after holidays.

Mazda619
Jul 1, 2012, 03:02 AM
Y how do you fully delete posts on this site

Mazda619
Jul 1, 2012, 03:06 AM
Hey sorry it should be

Hey how do you fully delete posts on this site