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clan56
Jun 27, 2012, 10:16 PM
My ex boyfriend and I were together for a year and six months we recently broke up and I'm just confused. Itz true we argue most of da time but we always end up solving our problems. He has cheated on me a lot of times but I forgaved him because I love him. This month 2 days after our anniversary he told me he felt lyk we couldn't be together and stated he didn't feel the same way about the telationship. Then the next day he texted me saying hey and even called when I didn't respond to his message because I was upset.

The day after that he send me a message saying hey again I didn't respond and around 9:30 he said Gudnite I Love You!! Just lyk that I don't know what to think I need sum advice should just stop talking to him?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html

My ex boyfriend and I were together for a year and six months we recently broke up, and I’m just confused. It’s true we argue most of the time but we always end up solving our problems. He has cheated on me a lot of times but I forgave him because I love him.

This month 2 days after our anniversary he told me he felt like we couldn’t be together and stated he didn’t feel the same way about the relationship. Then the next day he texted me saying “hey” and even called when I didn’t respond to his message because I was upset.

The next day he sent me a message saying “hey” again. I didn’t respond and around 9:30 he said “Goodnight I Love You!!!” Just like that. I don't know what to think I need some advice. Should I just stop talking to him?

joypulv
Jun 27, 2012, 11:05 PM
Please don't write in text talk here. It's difficult for us.
It seems that ignoring him makes him miss you, so keep ignoring him.
But there's only so much forgiving you can do when you love someone, after that you are just a fool for love.
So.. cheating... is it worth it? I wouldn't think so.
Sometimes we hang on to people just because it's painful to let go and we don't have enough in our lives to fill in the void. Find more things to do with good friends for a while.

talaniman
Jun 27, 2012, 11:08 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html

Seems you have already stop talking to him, and since he cheated before and all you do is argue and stay upset, then its probably best to NOT talk to him again.

I mean all you guys do is argue any way.

clan56
Jun 27, 2012, 11:27 PM
Thank you so much it is hard for me to let go but I'm sure once I'm able to everything would be better but if he ever ask me to go back with him should I even consider it?

talaniman
Jun 27, 2012, 11:57 PM
Why? To argue some more and break up again? I hardly see the point in that, love, or no love. Bet the reason you argue is you still have trust issues and have become very insecure, and still carry all kinds of anger because of the cheating, right?

clan56
Jun 28, 2012, 12:08 AM
Its true I guess I just wish he wouldn't had done all that stuff because it did hurt me and I don't think I want to go through that again but how can I let go and forget about him when I still love him?

talaniman
Jun 28, 2012, 12:33 AM
If you leave him alone you will have a chance to move beyond all those feelings, but it will take a while. Its better than the yoyo ride you are on now, for sure. Hurts will heal if you let them, but keeping him in your life will keep the hurt going.

Read the stickies here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/), they will help you through this.

clan56
Jun 30, 2012, 05:04 PM
I was talking to my ex today and out of nowhere he asked me if I was talking yo another boy and I responded saying no then I was playing and asked him if he was talking to another boy. He wrote lmao yea I am. I responded asking if he was handsome because it seemed to me lyk he was playing along with my question. He den answered saying I don't know. Is he actually stating his talking to another girl or was he just playing along?

lexiimendez2012
Jun 30, 2012, 05:52 PM
I think that if you still have feelings for your ex (which I presume you do for looking for help ) you need to tel him how your feel and you never know if he could feel the same way , however if you don't think he's right for you then you need to let him go and move on .

WisperWill70
Jun 30, 2012, 05:59 PM
What's the point of talking to your ex? You don't need him as a friend, you have other friends... so do you hope you're going to get back together? You won't know what he was teasing about unless you ask... if he doesn't share your feelings (wanting to see where things go and maybe get back together) you have to back off and move on with your life and not let him hang on to you.