Well I met my boyfriend when I was young. We have been together for 5 years and he is my world, although it's different on his side. See he use to cheat on me 24/7 but every time he got locked up he would NEED and LOVE me and only me. Then he'd get out and not even talk to me.

Well recently he just got out again on June 17th. He was in prison for a year and a half. He didn't call me or nothing that day. He texted me the following day to let me know he was home. We saw each other that night and he left the following morning NO TEXT NO CALLS for a full week. And he claims he wasn't home yet sucks at Lying!

He claims because how pretty I am he knows I cheated while he was locked up and he wants to have a kid to fully make me his.
I LOVE HIM TO DEATH BUT SO CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO. HELP?

You ever hear the saying you can't teach an old dog new tricks! I think this applies to your situation perfectly. My husband and I went through a lot of tough things in our marriage it bopiled down to me habing to leave him for him to really understand that he needed to changed. I suggest you don't answer his calls or texts for two weeks and give him a dose of his own medicine but don't cheat or anything just don't talk to him to show him you are done playing games!

Why are you still with him? You're buying the same crappy chocolate bar again, hoping it's going to taste better the next time. The second he cheated on you should have been the last of him. Have some self dignity and get away from this idiot.

When you left your husband what did he do? And oh believe me I tried :/ but every time he doesn't talk to me I get so mad and I say the same thing that ima not reply to him or anything he does but then he hits me up and I emdeiatley respond so happy that he'd giving me attention

Cobra menace :
How do you do that when you love someone. I broke up with him a few times and he does so much to get me back and it makes me so happy but then once I get back with him it only takes a week to start up again.

When u left ur husband what did he do? And oh belive me i tried :/ but everytime he doesnt talk to me i get so mad and i say the same thing that ima not reply to him or anything he does but then he hits me up and i emdeiatley respond so happy that he'd giving me attention


I get the feeling you are not in the US - ?

He hits you that makes you happy because it least he's paying attention to you?

You are an abused woman and, therefore, not thinking rationally about any part of this relationship.

You are considering bringing a child into this relationship?


Cobra menace :
how do you do that when you love someone. I broke up with him a few times and he does so much to get me back and it makes me so happy but then once i get back with him it only takes a week to start up again.


You develop self respect.

How do you support yourself?



Yes, you obviously ARE planning to have a child with this man to - quoting you - "make you his forever." Unprotected sex does lead to pregnancy.

This thread is somewhat different from your other thread - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens-health/worried-674563.html

What is the real story?

? I am in the u.s Ha. And I never said he hits me I said when he [ hits me up ] like texts me kall me Ect...

Cobra menace :
how do you do that when you love someone. I broke up with him a few times and he does so much to get me back and it makes me so happy but then once i get back with him it only takes a week to start up again.

You're blinded by love sweetheart, you can't see that he is abusing you, mentally. You need to wake up, realize that what he is doing to you is wrong and stand up for yourself. Stop getting sucked back into this terrible relationship, there are plenty of guys out there who would line up to make your life perfect. Drop this useless punk, and start looking for someone better, they're everywhere.

You're blinded by love sweetheart, you can't see that he is abusing you, mentally. You need to wake up, realize that what he is doing to you is wrong and stand up for yourself. Stop getting sucked back into this terrible relationship, there are plenty of guys out there who would line up to make your life perfect. Drop this useless punk, and start looking for someone better, they're everywhere.


Did you read that she thinks she's pregnant by her abuser? And it just keeps passing down through generations.

Has OP answered how she supports herself?

Does it make a difference if he has my name across his neck? Doesn't that mean in some way he loves me like I love him?

Does it make a difference if he has my name across his neck? Doesnt that mean in some way he loves me like i love him?

No, that means he is immature and made a poor decision in life, and making another one by ruining yours.

Im sure she did. And if she didn't I wouldve got to that with her. No need to point anything out. Get on with your life and give your "oh so great advice" to some one else tu sabes'

? My last thread is about having a child and Im scared Im pregnant. As u read this one its about my struggle with him.
IF YOU AINT GIVING ME ADVICE I SUGGEST YOU MOVE ON CAUSE YOU AINT DOING NOTHING HERE.

Having a baby with this man IS related to your relationship with him - you can't understand that?

Sorry but you don't get to dictate who will answer your posts and in what manner. Suggest all you like.

Im sure she did. And if she didnt i wouldve got to that with her. No need to point anything out. Get on with your life and give your "oh so great advice" to some one else tu sabes'

One day you will wake up from your love slumber. You will wish you had taken our advice and gotten out of this relationship sooner.

When it comes to finding the love of your life, eventually it is too late. Keep that in mind while you infatuate yourself over this low life.

I wish you the best of luck, I truly do.

Ive thought about that a lot and as you now know I might be pregnant by him. Which at first LORD I WAS EXCITED but after he stopped hitting me up I started regretting everything. So if I am do you think it will still be right to leave him?

He is a thug and this is the way men who are in and out of prison are. When they are in prison they will say things like that to you ( and most likely two or three others) so you will send them store money.

And yes the day or two they get out they have not had sex with a women for a while and you are a lot cheaper than hiring a hooker.

No a tattoo of your name on his neck merely means it was something at one point and it costs too much to change it.

You are being used, He will never change, this is how it will be in 10 years or 20 years. Hewill be in and out of jail, you will have 3 or 4 kids by him ( and maybe another guy or two depending on how long he is in, and he will do the same to you when he gets out

I think he's already left you so this is all lip service.

How do you support yourself? How do you intend to support yourself and the baby? You need a dose of reality.

If you are "prego" you need to make some tough decisions - and soon!

Ive thought about that alot and as you now know i might be prego by him. Which at first LORD I WAS EXCITED but after he stopped hitting me up i started regretting everything. So if i am do you think it will still be right to leave him?

A lot of people don't understand that children don't necessarily tie you down to someone. If you do end up being pregnant, have him pay child support, and raise that kid. You don't have to do it alone, there are men out there who will love you and your child no matter the father, first things first though. Get over him, and get away from him.

And please respect the people who post to you. Everyone here volunteers their time to help. They may seem like that are nagging and being rude, but we here believe in a little tough love sometimes we do it because we care.

Ok well first off Im on parole. I am working on finishing up on getting a GED. And as you say he's a "thug" I take that offensive I have tattoos on my face and my body & been in and out of being ecorserated since I was 12. I have two jobs and I pay for all my stuff.

Ok well first off Im on parole. I am working on finishing up on getting a GED. And as you say he's a "thug" i take that offensive i have tattoos on my face and my body & been in and out of being ecorserated since i was 12. i have two jobs and i pay for all my stuff.

Good - hopefully you can pay for stuff for both you and your child.

A thug is a common criminal. That doesn't describe him?

After you get your GED what do you intend to do next? More school? Another job?

Is your criminal history in any way related to this relationship?

In my area face tats are gang signs - I don't know where you are. I also don't know what "ecorserated" means. Incarcerated?

See financially I have no worries. Now you really starting to piss me off do you know me? Na you Don't do you know my boyfriend? No you Don't do you know my life? No you Don't. Now I Don't plan on any school after that why would I get a GED to go back to school? Stupid. And Yea gangs was my whole life I have 187 across my cheek I got my eye brows tattooed I got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. Do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style going to effect the way I raise my child. No it isn't so FALL THE BACK and as for my boyfriend he has his hood all over his face and body Don't CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD DAD.

You need to calm down, no we don't know you, or your boyfriend. Go back and read what you wrote. That's about all we have to go on, the rest is all assumption. Assumption on past incidents that are relative to this, as well as, yes, stereotypes. You can't come onto a website like this, give a mere fraction of your story and expect us to know exactly who you are, and then get mad about it when we don't.

No one ever said that he wouldn't be a good dad, nor you wouldn't be a good mother. You need to relax and stop putting words in everyone's mouth. We are just stating, from the information you gave us, what our opinions are on the matter, is that not what you wanted coming here? You seem to have forgotten that he is a cheater and in most of our books, I think I speak for most people here, cheating is one of the lowest thing you can do to a "partner"

Like I said before, everyone here volunteers their time to help other people. If you aren't having any of it, then stop logging on and keep "loving" this guy.

The advice has been given, and the ball's in your court sweetheart. Not only on the decision to let him go or keep him, but how your life will turn out from now on.

See financially i have no worries. Now you really starting to piss me off do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life? No you DONT. Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid. And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child. No it isnt so FALL THE BACK and as for my bf he has his hood all over his face and body DONT CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD DAD.

Maybe if you'd some of this attitude toward the boyfriend instead of me you wouldn't have to post problems on AMHD.

You know the truth - you just don't want to hear it.

I have no issues with your tats or your attitude or anything else - I just wasn't too sure that the first person who posted here was who you are.

And I was right.

do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life?

No, I don't know you or your boyfriend personally, but I do know many people just like you.


Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid.

So why are you getting your GED? Most people do it so that they can go to college and better their lives.


And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child. Actually, yes it can. Child services doesn't have a problem removing children from homes where there is danger. Gang involvement = danger to children.

See financially i have no worries. Now you really starting to piss me off do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life? No you DONT. Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid. And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child. No it isnt so FALL THE BACK and as for my bf he has his hood all over his face and body DONT CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD DAD.


Expect a series of dead end, low pay jobs if your entire education is a GED. Same thing with your tats. I don't know a lot of successful people with tattooed eyelids.

No job or low pay job DOES affect how your child is raised.

Of course, once you're a mother and get a little older this man who is "your World" will move on to someone else who will probably be young and naïve (or stupid, pick one).

You're going to be tied down with his child.

See he use to cheat on me 24/7 but every time he got locked up he would NEED and LOVE me and only me. Then he'd get out and not even talk to me.

That's enough to know that having a child with him is not in your interest, as it ties you to a loser who is making sure he has someone on the outside in case he needs them. I mean what else would a guy who is in and out of jail need with a female that worships the ground he walks on? He doesn't worship you for sure. You just give into him.

And while you get angry at those who point out what he is about, and suggest you get out of his life, fact is you are the one cheated on, and ignored. That will not change unless you change it yourself. So its your choice to go through this, and your choice to keep going through this.

Any child you have will be grateful if you make a good choice I am sure.

Run.

Sounds like the exact type of people that should NEVER have a kid...

We don't need more people on welfare..