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Fifilicious
Jun 27, 2012, 05:26 AM
My Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. When we started dating I had a boyfriend and he had 2 girlfriends. He broke up with the other one after we started dating. After 1year I broke with my other boyfriend and a month later he broke with his other girlfriend.

After 5 months he went back to his ex girlfriend and I just found out recently. There was 1 weekend that I couldn't get hold of him on his phone, on Monday I got his cell phone statement and there's a number that he's been calling more than mine. Sent him a text to say it's over and he replied after one day asking me when must he bring my stuff? When he brought my stuff he talked and sorted things out(made up).

The following weekend he told me that he still loves me, he's not bored but "that thing's no longer there" meaning that when he sees me he tries so hard to be all lovey dovey but he can't he doesn't know what's the problem or why? And he denies being together with his ex again.

He said he wants us to revive our relationship, but I don't know how? Or what are the chances? I can't break with him I love him... Please help I'm hurting, always crying and can't let go...

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 27, 2012, 06:13 AM
Why go back to him? It's like buying the same crappy chocolate bar twice hoping it's going to be better then second time.

You both need to get far away from one another, move on properly and continue with your lives.

You get back together, the same thing is going to happen, over and over and over. Don't believe me? Try and "revive" the relationship and waste more time on him, see how it turns out.

slapshot_oi
Jun 27, 2012, 09:17 AM
My Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. When we started dating I had a boyfriend and he had 2 girlfriends. He broke up with the other one after we started dating. After 1year I broke with my other boyfriend and a month later he broke with his other girlfriend.
This is very confusing. You and your boyfriend meet. At the time, he had 2 girlfriends and you had 1 boyfriend. You to start dating, and then your boyfriend count increments to 2 and his girlfriend count decrements to 2 and eventually you two are monogamous. Correct? This sounds like polyamory, but yet, here you are complaining of him being a cheater, implying that every girlfriend and boyfriend the aforementioned paragraph were all cheaters and cheated, correct?

What did you expect would happen? Sorry, but if you couldn't see how this relationship would've played out in the beginning there's not much help we can provide here.

VintageCrew
Jun 27, 2012, 09:27 AM
He cheated before, what makes you think he wouldn't do it again? Once a cheater. Always a cheater. Leave him. Don't waste your time your emotions, your tears, you got to toughen up princess, there are so many great decent loyal, faithful guys out there. You just haven't found the right one yet. Everyone has someone waiting for them, somebody amazing is waiting for you, and you got to go out and find him. Your not going to find him if your going to stay with this who doesn't know what he got atm, you deserve better.

talaniman
Jul 2, 2012, 08:49 AM
Get out of his harem, and stay out!

EnigmaMCMLXIV
Jul 2, 2012, 01:26 PM
Would love to know how old your ex boyfriend is and yourself? So you both were casual dating for a year then decided to be monogamous. After 5 months of a monogamous relationship he cheated on you because he thought the relationship was boring. So he feels if you broke up then got back together this would revive the relationship? You sure you want to get back with a guy who cheated on you when you were monogamous? If you both loved each other you don't break up to put a spark back into the relationship that is idiotic. Move on he wants his cake and eat it too.

rocketman11
Jul 2, 2012, 02:01 PM
This story doesn't really make sense, but from what I can understand I can only advise you to break up with him and find someone who deserves you.

You have to let him go and forget about him FOREVER. You need to seriously think about what you want from a realtionship; why would you want to be with someone you don't trust and someone who doesn't respect you?