I was dating a guy for about a year things were great. Then he started changing and doing crazy things. Almost every week, I would catch him out on something. I would find naked pictures of girls on his phone, condoms in his bag, people telling me stuff, but he always seemed to have a reason/excuse of how people are jealous and what not. We broke up several times due to him going on about his ex and just a lot of things not adding up.

I would try and move on live my life, then 2, 3 weeks later, he is in my life again, and we would end up sleeping together. See each other for couple weeks. Then he would disappear.

So I had enough and started talking to another guy, then slept with him. And when he found out he called me every name in the book. Although he is the one who left. So we moved on from that. I found out he was also seeing another girl, but he claimed he didn't like her, because there was something missing. Meaning me, so he came back and we tried again. I felt pregnant for him and I told him he was happy told his family and they were pleased. After a few days he then changed his mind told me his not ready and said some more evil things how I am not the girl of his dreams, that we won't work out and whatever. Then disappeared and he kept doing this for 3 months. All hot and cold then he came back told me he wants to be involved and he'll look after me and the baby. So I said fine whatever. Things were going great.

He said he was only interested in making money, and being there for me, and the baby. He came with me to my 3 month scan stayed over. Came by at the weekend to chill and watch movies and of course we slept together. Then the week after he was different. Ignoring my calls, not replying to my texts. Lying about where he was, and about everything. Only to find out he was dating another girl (who I don't have a problem with for being white) but he always said he hated white girls, he would never date one etc. and there he is with her in a relationship on Facebook, where he has blocked me, completely ignores me, doesn't phone to ask how I am, he is with her everyday but claims he is not and just lies to me, dropping me for some random girl when he promised he would never treat me like I was his bit on the side.

He came by last week to drop be a bit of money, and he wouldn't stop asking me if I was okay. He kissed me on the cheek, and hugged me. But I froze still feel sick for what he done/doing. He also claims that because I said evil things to him about the girl it pushed him toward her more, which is not true, because he was seeing us both at the same time. My heart is crushed. I can't stop crying. I've even got a secret Facebook that he is on, and he is always being tagged by her almost every day about their whereabouts. It's like I don't exist and all the stuff he said was a lie :(, he doesn't give a damn about me or this baby, I just want to know why? Why he did it? Why he lied, and went against everything he said he would never do? It's like I never knew him, all his mum says is to be strong.

Please be nice I am highly sensitive just want to understand why he done this to me? Is she just a rebound and distraction or do you think he actually likes her more than me? Although he says that's not the case they just get along but he is always with her and a group of both their friends. I never see pictures of him being tagged with just her :(.

Can anyone help?

How old are you both? Kind of hard to figure a guy of a year, but off hand, I say he talks but doesn't know exactly what he should do, or shouldn't do. His actions are ones of a young guy who needs help because his shock has him doing anything he can to feel better about himself.

For your part though do you have family or friends to support you through this life changing event? That's what you need so you can stop depending on him, and putting up with his crap.