mildredmarie
Jun 26, 2012, 05:48 PM
My daughter is refusing to contact me because she said I make her feel guilty and she is not responsible for my happiness. She is adopted, 30 years old and a therapist. I feel everything I say has to be scrutinized and picked apart because of my past in that 50 years ago I was abused but rarely think about it and have moved on. She is moving away and I cried and cried and told her that I had hoped to be closer as I am older. She got angy and wished she had told me she would make sure we would see each other, call (which she never does now?) and visit me. All she could see is that I was sad. Was it normal to be sad?
Affter all cried out I will miss her but that is her choice... Her father is just as sad but for some reason .she now refuses to see me unless I see a psycologist. I feel fine, Yes I am sad, Yes I will miss her but I feel she has always taken any joy I may have with her and turn it into something ugly. Like she puts up walls between us since she was a child. I love her, I am proud of her but she always says she is not good enough and I tell her all the time. I am so confused and hurt. I am just going to let things set and maybe she will contact me some day after she moves and settles in. Any ideas for me... I am a Mom who loves her child but cries easily and am hurting right now.
Affter all cried out I will miss her but that is her choice... Her father is just as sad but for some reason .she now refuses to see me unless I see a psycologist. I feel fine, Yes I am sad, Yes I will miss her but I feel she has always taken any joy I may have with her and turn it into something ugly. Like she puts up walls between us since she was a child. I love her, I am proud of her but she always says she is not good enough and I tell her all the time. I am so confused and hurt. I am just going to let things set and maybe she will contact me some day after she moves and settles in. Any ideas for me... I am a Mom who loves her child but cries easily and am hurting right now.