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Sheila2686
Jun 26, 2012, 08:56 AM
Im 26.
Me and my b/f have only known each other 2months, dating for one. Things moved very fast and we had sex early on in our relationship. When we have sex it's amazing and he has no problem getting an erection, but I want sex every day and he doesn't. He says it's because his last few relationships weren't the best or very sexually active so he got it in his head that he shouldn't think about sex. He says he just needs time to change his way of thinking and that he is very attracted to me.
Ive tried dressing up in sexy clothes and I've tried initiating it by being forward or being subtle and neither one works. Im goings kind of crazy, he spends the night quite a bit but he's OK with going 5days before he'll initiate sex. Im becoming very unhappy and I just don't know what to do.

CravenMorhead
Jun 26, 2012, 09:29 AM
While this is his baggage, you can't expect him to change on dime.

This is only a month old. You're still in the part where you're deciding if this will last. Relax a little abut this. You're moving fast, there is no doubt, but you need to work this with him.

What is his life like? Stress/exhaustion/drug/alcohol and the like? He could be suppressing a strong libido, or he could have a low libido. Has be been to a doctor recently?

Trust what he says and give him time.

So when you initiate sex he doesn't respond and you don't have sex?

Sheila2686
Jun 28, 2012, 06:11 PM
While this is his baggage, you can't expect him to change on dime.

This is only a month old. You're still in the part where you're deciding if this will last. Relax a little abut this. You're moving fast, there is no doubt, but you need to work this with him.

What is his life like? Stress/exhaustion/drug/alcohol and the like? He could be suppressing a strong libido, or he could have a low libido. Has be been to a doctor recently?

Trust what he says and give him time.

So when you initiate sex he doesn't respond and you don't have sex?


He's a little depressed due to his weight. His job isn't stressful, he isn't too good with his money so he tends to stress out about it.

Sheila2686
Jun 28, 2012, 06:13 PM
When I try to initiate sex he giggles awkwardly or pulls away or mentions how tired he is.

CravenMorhead
Jun 29, 2012, 08:29 AM
He's a little depressed due to his weight. His job isn't stressful, he isn't too good with his money so he tends to stress out about it.

I would suggest that he take a financial planning course.

Stress and exhaustion are libido killers.

I also there there are some base incompatibilities here. Only two months. There is no shame in cutting and running. I would do that to be honest.