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barkely20
Jun 25, 2012, 11:52 AM
Hello everyone
So my girlfriend and I being dating for 2 years and a half. We loved each others dearly, but things weren't going good. For Instance, we didn't really have sex for a long time. Every time I try to have sex, she be telling she is not in the mood for it. I tried few times until I fed up and leave at that. We were still seeing each other kiss,and everything but just not sexual activities like that.

So 2 days before she asked for a break, she was telling me how is it good that is it almost 3 years now. So I met her when she got off work, she actually didn't wanted to me up, but decided she going to meet up for a few, because she was tired and just want get home to sleep. The truth is, she wasn't really trying get home and go to sleep. Instead she was just rushing so she can step out and see some people. I called her and she told me I am going to pick up my brother,but she was lying to me, because her and her friend was heading to some guys whom she claimed is just a friend. I called her again and she didn't pick up at all. Until like 2 in the morning. She was drunk, and sounded like she might had sex.
And just told me we should just call it a quit.

The next day we met up to talk in person. So she ask for a break and didn't really give me a reason. She said she still loves me and all. So we kissed for a bit and I touched her vagina and it seem like it was sore. I am thinking she had sex when they were at those guys' house. She want get back after couple weeks, but Idk, if she really slept with the guy, I would like to ended for good. Help me with any advise thanks

Homegirl 50
Jun 25, 2012, 01:04 PM
Sounds like you are an option to her and one that is a bottom of the totem pole one. If you know for sure that she lied to you and when out with another guy, why are you asking? Give her a permanent break.

barkely20
Jun 25, 2012, 01:13 PM
Thanks @ homegirl
I am asking because she still says she love me and everything and she didn't want me to be away from her and all that. I don't for sure if she cheated, she lied at first and then told me the truth which I don't know really know if I can believe her anymore. She told she just hang out with her friend and nothing happened. Her friend told me the same thing but I don't know. I still love her though, I just want to make sure that I am not accusing her of cheating or anything like that before I make my decision.

Homegirl 50
Jun 25, 2012, 01:52 PM
She sounds very evasive to me. I'd break up with her. Still seems to me that you are an option to her.
She may say she loves you but she does not treat you like she loves you.

barkely20
Jun 25, 2012, 01:56 PM
She sounds very evasive to me. I'd break up with her. Still seems to me that you are an option to her.
She may say she loves you but she does not treat you like she loves you.

Yes, she is. I was thinking about letting her continue with her break and then whenever she tried to get back with me, I just reject her. I have already started meeting new people so I can forget about her easily.

Homegirl 50
Jun 25, 2012, 02:00 PM
Yeah you should definitely move on. I would not even talk to her. When and if she contacts you, just tell her you have moved on.

Homegirl 50
Jun 25, 2012, 02:01 PM
Just don't jump into a relationship with someone else while you're trying to get over her, That is so "uncool"

barkely20
Jun 25, 2012, 02:35 PM
Just don't jump into a relationship with someone else while you're trying to get over her, That is so "uncool"

Thanks. I am not going to get into another relationship right away. I just want to meet new people and to keep me busy in my free time, and maybe I might find the person .

Homegirl 50
Jun 25, 2012, 02:51 PM
I wish you well