CUTE CHICK
Jun 25, 2012, 02:07 AM
I was in a relationship for almost 2 to 3years in 2007 until 2010 when I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me, so I broke up with him in 2010 then I met some one els,I feel so guilty on my current parter because he doesn't know that I am still in love with my ex, how do I overcome this feelings because its been so long since our breakup??
Jake2008
Jun 25, 2012, 04:03 AM
The breakup may have been 2+ years ago, but, are you still in touch with him? Is he on your Facebook, or have you emailed him or texted him?
If there has been absolutely no contact, then how do you know you are still in love with him, or that he is (maybe) available to go back to?
You could be, if that's not the case, in love with the good part, of what was. Perhaps your new man doesn't have the same sense of humour, or maybe he's not as adventurous or something.
The death of a relationship is like the death of anything. Eventually, the bad parts fade (ie reasons for the breakup in your case), and good memories come to the surface.
You may love the ideal of who you thought your ex was, or was going to be, or the idea that the love you felt for him seems like a once in a lifetime experience, but loving someone in an active sense, who has been a part of your past for two years, makes me wonder- why.
That the past relationship is very much alive in your current relationship, is not very healthy, or fair to the 'new' man.
I'm not sure why you would choose to allow yourself not to get past the old relationship, because to stay in the past and keep your ex boyfriend in the present, really holds you at arm's length from any meaningful relationship.
What was it about him, or what is it about him if you are still in touch with him, that you think, overshadows the relationship you have now.
Nikki7347
Jun 25, 2012, 01:48 PM
You can still talk to your ex. If you are not over your ex then you will have to get a boyfriend that is so amazing and you are so deeply in love with that you will forget about the ex. I know how you feel, for a while I still liked my ex when I was dating another guy. My ex hated me, he put me through hell the entire school year. You will just have to realize that is over, everyone has moved on. You have a boyfriend who you love, you are happy, that is all that matters, forget about your ex.