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octo12sant
Jun 24, 2012, 12:43 AM
Why is that majority of guys nowadays don't like virgins? I'm a 23 yr old virgin and every relationship I have been in ended early. It's not like I lie to them, and I feel that the only reason these guys have been in relationships with me is for sex. After a couple months every guy I have been with brought the sex topic up but I always felt like the were pressuring me to have sex with them, and it just always made me feel uncomfortable ,unwanted and like I wasn't worth the wait.

I feel like I'll never be able to meet a good guy who respects my decisions and is going to love me before even wanting my virginity, sometimes I feel I should just give it up and why wait if the majority of society is all about sex. I feel like sex is the only option I and any other virgins out there have. I'm also scared that if and when the right man did appear in my life and I decide to give him m virginity that I won't be good enough for him because I'm not experienced and that he will end up leaving me.

ali18ninja
Jun 24, 2012, 05:16 PM
The right man would appreciate you waiting to have sex. If he wants someone more experienced, then he isn't the right man. I'm a 23 year old virgin as well and I'm a guy. I also am waiting to have sex. My girlfriend is not a virgin but I got over that. She loves that I'm still a virgin and I feel great about my decision. I still won't have sex with her until I'm married or it just feels right. She's not pressuring me at all. In fact, she won't have sex with me until she feels ready too. So just because someone isn't a virgin, doesn't mean they don't want the right guy/girl. Be patient, you'll find someone. I didn't expect to find a non virgin with similar morals as me. It doesn't matter if they had sex or not as long as they wait for you. Don't give in to "society" and give your virginity away. It's a gift and it should be treasured until you decide to give it away to someone worthy. Live for yourself and don't give in to what society wants from you.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 24, 2012, 05:36 PM
Are they really pushing it, or just asking about it, yes about 3 months in, if this has not been talked about early, is when the sex talk would or should come up. In fact for most guys it will come about at 3 weeks.

So when you say you "feel" like they are pushing it, what is really happening, how is it being talked about ?

So are you confusing a normal discussion of asking what is going to happen about sex ? Or are they night after night pushing to have it.

talaniman
Jun 24, 2012, 09:57 PM
Maybe you just keep picking the same type of guy to date. Try staying casual friends and date for fun, NOT a quick exclusive relationship. Then you don't have to tell them anything until you know them.

I wouldn't worry about the ones that don't, or can't understand. So don't get all bitter and frustrated, just because you have run into the wrong dating partners.