What are some signs that your husband is attracted to or molesting your child, the way my husband looks at & acts around my daughter. I'm pretty sure he has by stuff I've seen go on but what are some obvious signs the way they act.

Have you moved out yet? That's your first priority. After that, connect with a counselor who works with abused kids.

What makes you think he is doing such a thing? Explain the way they act, and what he does to put you on edge.

I would also like to ask, have you ever been sexually abused? I only ask because I was as a child, and when I had my own child, anytime I heard her cry, or heard her say 'i don't want to' or run away from someone or be fearful of someone (all normal behaviors) my mind automatically when to abuse when it wasn't.

I will start with an answer to our previous questions as well... I am a 21 year old, I was molested by my uncle when I was 5. I did not remember any of it until I started having nightmares about it. They didn't happen until I was raped again in highschoool at 16 and the memories came flooding back. One day if it is something that happened your girls will remember the trauma. Our bodies shut down to a painful trauma and when worked through it is like opening a floodgate.
I promise it'll all be okay. It is a very hard thing to deal with. I found out when I was 19. So 2 years ago and I'm still in therapy for it. I take medication for panic attacks and I wake up in the middle of the night in sweats. I don't think you will ever see signs, I would just encourage open communication with your daughters and if they have a feeling o not being safe then they need to feel free to tell their mommy...

Make it clear to them that they matter more and remind them constantly... I think that's the best you can do.