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LaFolie
Jun 23, 2012, 12:09 PM
Met a guy online. He sent me an email first. I responded. We had a great back and forth. A week later I left him a fun short email in the late afternoon. One sentence to be exact. He responded later that night. Next day I responded. We had another great back and forth. Our exchange was more like a real-time chat. But it was email so there was some delay. The dating site doesn't have a chat feature. I said it would be great if it did. He asked me if I was on any other social networking site. I said I wasn't anymore. He gave me his #. I said "that was fast" and I signaled I wasn't quite there yet, in a funny way. But the back and forth continued, fun and light via email.

Four days later (am) I was cleaning up my inbox at the site and accidentally clicked on his profile and also somehow deleted our messages. Left him a funny message about that. (Because he would be notified I had gone to his profile.) One that did not require a response. He responded quickly and said he wanted to meet me before he leaves town in a little over a week. He's moving to another city, which is an hour or so flight away.

I didn't respond right away. I thought OK we've emailed, there's a good vibe so far, he's moving, let's try a phone call and just see how that goes. And I was OK with the distance because IF we did meet and hit it off we could take the time to get know one another and seeing each other wouldn't be a big deal IF that's where it went. I called early that evening and left a brief message including my number. I didn't ask him to call me, no rambling, just an "ok, talk soon". Zero neediness. There's been no response.

I know the signs, this guy was interested. He made that clear.

What the?

For the record, I know better than to try and contact him again via phone or email. I have no interest in doing that. I understand that moving is time consuming, but remember he was initiating. I was just curious to hear different perspectives. Preferably from a male point of view.

talaniman
Jun 23, 2012, 07:09 PM
Best to keep enjoying your life, and not dwell on him responding right away, if at all. No telling what he is doing that keeps him from calling right away. Or how many numbers, and on line contacts he juggles.

You just don't know from on line contacts what the real deal is.

LaFolie
Jun 24, 2012, 06:53 AM
True that. Tal. Just fascinated by human behavior. As stated, just curious as to different perspectives. Thanks for you're the response.

mearbhall
Jun 25, 2012, 02:46 AM
Odd... has he been in touch yet?

LaFolie
Jun 25, 2012, 04:34 PM
Yes, odd indeed. And no, no call, no email. Poof! LOL!

talaniman
Jun 26, 2012, 07:12 AM
Leave this situation. Its not wise to put all your eggs into the basket of the unreliable, and unreachable, unknown. You can do better protecting your own heart.