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ranidestiny20
Jun 23, 2012, 05:43 AM
Hi, last year I had gone to Pakistan for my brothers wedding but my dad had done my wedding too out of the blue. I didn't want to get married in the first place, but due to emotional blackmail I had to. Now its been a year now that I haven't gone home, as I had ran away from home in September, because my parents are always on the case of showing me down. And whatever it is they were living my life for me.

So as I have been away from home, I have met someone I really love, I had went to a shariah office to do my divorce, two letters had been sent to Pakistan as the third was stopped by my dad, so I had gone to a molvi an looking at everything. He had issued my divorce papers and gave me 1 month iddat period for my nikkah, so after a month had gone I had done the nikaah.

My dad and family would never let me marry outside the family, so the molvi had become my wali. My dad thinks that the guy is after stay that's all, but I don't think so, an I might be pregnant. Would I get arressted by doing this?

Please help me, as I am with a guy that hasn't got stay in this country, he is on a case, an I know that how much I love him but I don't know, is he only with me for stay?

Fr_Chuck
Jun 23, 2012, 07:01 AM
Only he knows that, is there talk or plans of you returning to his country with him latter?

ranidestiny20
Jun 23, 2012, 07:10 AM
Only he knows that, is there talk or plans of you returning to his country with him latter?

Yes, he says that he wants me to come with him to Pakistan for a holiday together to enjoy an also to show me his village

talaniman
Jun 23, 2012, 09:53 AM
I don't think you can be arrested, but the family won't like what you have done, and you certainly shouldn't be getting pregnant with a guy you are unsure of, that's for sure. How old are you, are you of age to be making your own decisions?

ranidestiny20
Jun 23, 2012, 10:58 AM
I don't think you can be arrested, but the family won't like what you have done, and you certainly shouldn't be getting pregnant with a guy you are unsure of, thats for sure. How old are you, are you of age to be making your own decisions?

I know, but my family are totally against him... they don't want
Anything to do with him.They are so against him... I know how's he like as I know hin for a long time, an I really love him. I know that he would never cheat on me or leave me... an I'm 20

talaniman
Jun 23, 2012, 11:56 AM
All they know is you ran away and now have a guy they don't know and have not approved of. That's very understandable. You can no more force what you want on them as they tried to do with you. Let it go and solve one problem at a time.

Are you pregnant?

ranidestiny20
Jun 23, 2012, 02:54 PM
All they know is you ran away and now have a guy they don't know and have not approved of. Thats very understandable. you can no more force what you want on them as they tried to do with you. let it go and solve one problem at a time.

Are you pregnant??

Yeah I am pregnant but how can I say it all the problems are just coming in one go...