ChevelleSS
Jun 22, 2012, 09:46 AM
We have been together for 4 years, engaged for 3 years and living together for 3 years. For the past 6 months we have become less and less intimate. He has made several comments like, I should do pilates, kepp up with my nails and toes, I'm getting grumpy with my old age (hes 8 years older then me) I'm in great shape, and my nails and toes are well manicured and polished by the way. Has commented during a conversation "this is getting old" not sure what he meant, our conversations?
I helped him type a letter on his work lap top and noticed he sent a co worker an email with an image of mini mouse, and him as mighty mouse and thanked her for being an awesome team member. I said nothing but thought it odd. She doesn't work in his office but at another location in the same city. I have met most of the people he works with at parties, funerals, outings etc. So, from time to time I ask how co workers are etc... I asked about his team member Dawn aka Mini mouse and he was a little harsh and asked why I'm asking about her, I replied that I ask about everyone he works with and he never asked why.
He had a meeting at the other office not to long ago and went bought new shirt tie shoes underwear and socks. :) he hates shopping!
He insists on looking good and dressing well on tuesdays. He doesn't text or e-mail all day on tuesdays but will about 5 telling me he will be a little late.
He usually gets his haircut on Saturdays for years at the same place, he's picky about who cuts his hair. He came home with his hair cut during the week, he said he got it during lunch by his work..? His ex girlfriend cuts hair ad used to cut his before he met me.hmmm?
He spends a lot of time on his blackberry and one of his calls from dawn lasted 1/2 hour, is that normal she is admin.. at work.?
One day he fixed a door at the house and I teased him saying does she call you Bob Villa (home improvement guy, tv) he said no she calls me Papi?? His exgirlfriend is hispanic. Then he said just kidding!
He has been tossing and turning at night and when I ask him if he slept OK he says no been think about work.
When we do make love its short and no I love you or foreplay he doesn't look at me :(
He never used to look at other women he was always respectful that if he did he didn't let me see that or feel it, but he has been latley, right in front of me.His parents came to town and he went to visit them and didn't invite me, said he was going to see them and left.
He used to ever mind my things in his car now he takes them out and puts them in the garage..?
Am I losing my mind? Red flags? Help!
I helped him type a letter on his work lap top and noticed he sent a co worker an email with an image of mini mouse, and him as mighty mouse and thanked her for being an awesome team member. I said nothing but thought it odd. She doesn't work in his office but at another location in the same city. I have met most of the people he works with at parties, funerals, outings etc. So, from time to time I ask how co workers are etc... I asked about his team member Dawn aka Mini mouse and he was a little harsh and asked why I'm asking about her, I replied that I ask about everyone he works with and he never asked why.
He had a meeting at the other office not to long ago and went bought new shirt tie shoes underwear and socks. :) he hates shopping!
He insists on looking good and dressing well on tuesdays. He doesn't text or e-mail all day on tuesdays but will about 5 telling me he will be a little late.
He usually gets his haircut on Saturdays for years at the same place, he's picky about who cuts his hair. He came home with his hair cut during the week, he said he got it during lunch by his work..? His ex girlfriend cuts hair ad used to cut his before he met me.hmmm?
He spends a lot of time on his blackberry and one of his calls from dawn lasted 1/2 hour, is that normal she is admin.. at work.?
One day he fixed a door at the house and I teased him saying does she call you Bob Villa (home improvement guy, tv) he said no she calls me Papi?? His exgirlfriend is hispanic. Then he said just kidding!
He has been tossing and turning at night and when I ask him if he slept OK he says no been think about work.
When we do make love its short and no I love you or foreplay he doesn't look at me :(
He never used to look at other women he was always respectful that if he did he didn't let me see that or feel it, but he has been latley, right in front of me.His parents came to town and he went to visit them and didn't invite me, said he was going to see them and left.
He used to ever mind my things in his car now he takes them out and puts them in the garage..?
Am I losing my mind? Red flags? Help!