Hi
I am 16 and how found how 2weeks ago I was pregnant with my boyfriend baby
He does not know as well
I have been wanting to tell my mum and dad since I found out but I know that they will go mad at me as they do not think that I have had sex with my boyfriend
Does anyone know of any good ways of telling them ?
Thank you
Amy

Yes, you sit them down and tell them you need to talk to them. I'd start with "I know you're going to be disappointed but ..."

I trust the age of consent is 16 in your area. Your parents are probably going to at least mention filing charges against your boyfriend, particularly if the sexual relationship started when you were underage.

How did you find out you are pregnant? Home test? A Physician?

I did I home test when everyone was out and my boyfriend is 19 but we started having sex when I was 15 and him 18 but I was OK with it
And I know they will go mad when I tell them do you think if I when to the doc and asked for a abortion then they never have to find out ?
Thank you
Amy

It depends on where you live as to whether you will need your parent's permission for an abortion.

I live in the uk but if they find out they will go mad and so will my boyfriend

i live in the uk but if they find out they will go mad and so will my boyfriend


You have two choices - everyone gets mad at you or you have a child. That's the bottom line.

i did i home test when everyone was out and my boyfriend is 19 but we started having sex when i was 15 and him 18 but i was ok with it
and i know they will go mad when i tell them do you think if i when to the doc and asked for a abortion then they never have to find out ?
thank you
amy


You don't understand the Age of Consent laws - you CANNOT consent to having sex if you are under 16 because you are considered to be a child. I know, everyone tells AMHD how mature they are. That doesn't matter. IF you have sex and you are under 16 it was rape in the eyes of the Courts.

You CANNOT be "okay" with it because legally you were too young to be "OK" with it.

I have read you CAN have an abortion at 16 without parental consent. Another site says you CANNOT. I don't know which is right. At any rate, a Physician can tell you.

Did your birth control fail?

Don't get me wrong I'd love to be a mum to this baby but it more what everyone will say about it and what my boyfriend says and does as I do not want him to go as of this

don't get me wrong i'd love to be a mum to this baby but it more what everyone will say about it and what my boyfriend says and does as i do not want him to go as of this


I have some idea what you just said - good that you would "love" to be a mom.

So - you are going to have an abortion because of what "everyone will say about it" and what your boyfriend will say? Can you, should you, have this baby? I don't know. That's your decision - obviously.

Here's my concern - you are having sex with someone who committed legal rape but you are having an abortion so he doesn't walk away from you? He won't stand with you?

You need some serious counselling -

If I tell him have he walks away from me then I will not have him anymore and he means the world to me

if i tell him have he walks away from me then i will not have him anymore and he means the world to me


Quite bluntly - then you are a fool. A young, pregnant fool - but a fool nevertheless.

So tell your parents, consult with a Physician. I assume you are paying for the abortion? Or is he?

And you didn't answer me - birth control failed?

And this is why he's a legal rapist. You get pregnant and your concern is that he will walk away. I'm guessing that's the same reason you were having sex with him, in order to "keep him."

You've been given good information and advice by several people. Follow it.

As Judy so rightfully said...

#1. Tell your parents...

#2. Tell HIS parents... they share legal liability for this situation.

if i tell him have he walks away from me then i will not have him anymore and he means the world to me

So... he's the father... he's going to be paying to raise the child unit its legal age, and you can make him do it if he walks away or not... if you get an abortion... he should be paying for it.

Plus what's wrong with him... a 15 year old is a child compared to an 18 year old... its only three years but it's a HUGE gap when it comes to maturity and intellectual development... what? He wasn't able to get a girlfriend his own age? He chases after a 15 year old because first its easier to impress a 15 year old and convince her to put out, than a far wiser woman his own age... using that higher maturity level... and why its considered statutory rape in most of the civilized world.

I wasn't putting you down by calling you a child at that age... but developementally you are... along with everyone else your age... you will understand this in a few years... everyone goes through that stage.

Being an adult is much more than being physically capable of having a child. That happens many years before the maturity of an adult is achieved. And it applies just as equally to males as it does females.

And I will add that amy132 sounds like every abused woman at some time of another - if she doesn't comply, he walks, so she complies right up until she smartens up.

And if this is starting at 16 I see a long and unhappy, controlled life in front of her.

i live in the uk but if they find out they will go mad and so will my boyfriend

And as far as this... He bought the ticket for the ride, he can't get a refund now that he took it... and I doubt he is so stupid he thought pregnancy couldn't happen.

He did not make me have sex with him it was me that was OK for him to have sex with me
And I no I was silly to say yes when he asked if I wanted to with him
And no we did not use any birth control as he did not want to do so
I know he loves me but I do not think he will if he knows about this as he will be mad

I'm guessing no birth control (Amy isn't answering) and coercion (she's afraid of losing him now; if she said no she might "lose" him) and in the eyes of the law he's a rapist.

I doubt anyone will go mad - I suspect they'll be mad.

If Amy doesn't have an abortion she is going to raise this child alone because the "bf" is probably moving on as we speak. And if she does have the abortion she'll go right back to unprotected sex for the all reasons men have used since the beginning of time - "Do you shower with your clothes on? Well, that's why I'm not using a condom."

Or don't men use that line any more?

He did not make me have sex with him it was me that was OK for him to have sex with me
And I no I was silly to say yes when he asked if I wanted to with him
And no we did not use any birth control as he did not want to do so
I know he loves me but I do not think he will if he knows about this as he will be mad

he did not make me have sex with him it was me that was ok for him to have sex with me
and i no i was silly to say yes when he asked if i wanted to with him
and no we did not use any birth control as he did not want to do so
i know he loves me but i do not think he will if he knows about this as he will be mad

You do understand the concept of coercion? Sure you said yes... but not until after AFTER he convinced you. He made you say yes by whatever means he used to get you to drop your pants.

Statutory rape doesn't mean forcible rape... it means an adult talks someone too young to make an informed consent into having sex. Doesn't matter that they said yes.

Forcible rape would be if you said no or stop and he didn't.

The fact he used no protection... makes this even worse because he intentionally made you pregnant... this wasn't an accident or a mistake.

He is either a retard or a pedophile.

You better tell your parents... AND his parents as well as him... I bet they will all be so proud of him for doing this.

If you was 18 I would say you share the blame in this equally... but you aren't so that makes MOST of this his fault.

It my fault as he asked me if I wanted to when his parents were away and I said yes as he had been on about for some time and I did not want him to go as I love him and he loves me
I know what I did was silly but I do not want him to get done for it as it not his fault

he did not make me have sex with him it was me that was ok for him to have sex with me
and i no i was silly to say yes when he asked if i wanted to with him
and no we did not use any birth control as he did not want to do so
i know he loves me but i do not think he will if he knows about this as he will be mad


Did you read what I posted? You are a child in the eyes of the Law. You could have begged him for sex - that would make him no less responsible. He committed legal rape. YOU CANNOT CONSENT AT YOUR AGE. You are too young to agree or not agree so this is not your fault.

For that matter I don't think it matters much whose fault it was because you continue to defend him - and obviously are afraid he will walk out.

Well, if it was his decision not to use birth control and you agreed what did you think was going to eventually happen?

How do you know he loves you? So he loves you so much that when he finds out you're pregnant he's going to be mad? Mad at you, I would guess? Amy, this conversation is going nowhere and the minutes are ticking by.

Tell your parents, tell his parents, tell him, tell the Police - which your parents very well may do.

it my fault as he asked me if i wanted to when his parents were away and i said yes as he had been on about for some time and i did not want him to go as i love him and he loves me
i know what i did was silly but i do not want him to get done for it as it not his fault
No, it wasn't your fault. Yes, it is his fault. He gave you a snow job and he was old enough (and you weren't) to know better.

And if you think your parents would be mad now... wait until you see how mad they will get over you trying to hide it from them... you won't be able to do that for every long... being pregnant gets REALLY obvious by the 5th or 6 month... and impossible to hide by the 8th or 9th.

And even an abortion is far from a 15 minutes in the Dr. and its all gone thing... you won't be hiding that either.

I think I am going to have a abortion without telling anyone as I don't want to get him mad at me or anything
I want to be a mum to the baby but I don't want to loss him as he means so much to me
Thank you for your help everyone

Let me see, having underage sex and making a mistake, followed by killing a baby, that will make it all better >

It is time to be mature, you pretended to be grown up and have sex, so time to be grown up and talk to your parents, who will help make educated choices, using proper medical insurance if needed.

i think i am going to have a abortion without telling anyone as i don't want to get him mad at me or anything
i want to be a mum to the baby but i don;t want to loss him as he means so much to me
thank you for your help everyone

Oh there is so much wrong in this I don't even know where to begin...

16 and already a slave to an abusive pedophile... who won't stick around very long at all...

I give you 1% odds he will still be there a year for now... no matter WHAT you do...

Hope you can live with the knowledge you killed a baby over a loser like him... he could care less... you are going to have to live with that the rest of your life. And you will. Particularly if you do this on your own.. without the support of your family.

Ever have to kill a pet before? Its hard, real hard, but that would be easy compared to killing your baby.

You won't be able to keep that a secret... its impossible... then your parents will be even more angry that this pedophile raped their daughter... and is was rape... then that you lied to them about it... then you got an abortion and lied about that to them...

Just telling them now will cause far less anger and problems than compounding the lies will. And the truth DOES always have a way of coming out.

If you have any respect for your family you will tell them now... if this loser had any respect for you he would have used protection... its clear he doesn't. Accidents happen... but doing this without protection was no accident.

All they will do is get mad and everything so when I have a abortion it be better if they do not know
I no that killing the baby is not a great thing to do and I want this baby as I'd love to be a good mum to it but I will loss my boyfriend if I tell him and I do not want to do that
And knowing what I have done will hurt me every day but I hope he will stay with me and he only hit me once and that was my fault

You do realize you will lose your boyfriend anyway, don't you. He isn't the kind of guy to stay with one girl. Soon he will find a younger, cuter girl than you are, and she will be a virgin.

he only hit me once and that was my fault
Your fault? He really has you snowed under, doesn't he. Nothing is ever his fault?

No he does not
It was my fault as I'd been annoying him and he had a hard day with everything so I pushed him to it

Oh I missed that... statutory rape with a minor... assult and battery... of a minor...

This guy gets to be a bigger piece of human scum with almost every post.

When does getting beaten stop being OK? With black eyes, broken nose... broken bones... ruptured spleen, loss of a kidney, concussion, fractured skull?

Does it stop with being admitted into intesive care? Or when you die? You clearly aren't aware it always starts small and gets worse each time?

If you was my daughter... I'd beat the hell out of the SOB for doing that. See how much HE likes getting the snot beat out of him. Takes a real man to hit a girl... much less a woman... yeah... real keeper that one is.

He OK really he just gets mad sometimes as I make him mad when he had a hard day that's all
Most of the time he is great toward me

Here we go again - my same concern:

"I think I'm pregnant."

"I think I'm pregnant and I was underage."

"I think I'm pregnant and I'm going to have an abortion but no one will know." (Apparently the abortion will be free and there will be no after care.)

"He only hit me once."

Are you shocked yet?

I have my concerns about this thread and Amy.

if i tell him have he walks away from me then i will not have him anymore and he means the world to me

Then sorry to be so blunt... that makes you stupid. YOU get abused... and you go back for more of it. You don't even have the excuse of having noplace to go... because you live at home and not with him.

Seriously... if this was YOUR little sister... would you tell her, its OK... he only beats you a little bit when you deserve it? I don't think you would.

Unfortunately, I have two nieces-in-law who could have written this very same thing, but they ended up having their babies. Now, there are four babies each with a different father. And the nieces get physically and emotionally beaten on a regular basis because they did something the guy didn't like. And it goes back to how the girls were bought up.

Unfortunately, I have two nieces-in-law who could have written this very same thing, but they ended up having their babies. Now, there are four babies each with a different father. And the nieces get physically and emotionally beaten on a regular basis because they did something the guy didn't like.


And nothing you, Smoothy, I, her parents, an Attorney, a Judge, a Social Worker says is going to change this.

This is a person excusing the boyfriend's behavior because if she stands up she loses him. Maybe it's about self image, self confidence, self worth - or being 16.

I've been there.

Nothing anyone says is going to change this until SHE sees him for what he is - and changes things.

He only hit me 1 time and that was my fault not his

he only hit me 1 time and that was my fault not his
Sorry. It was HIS fault. He had/has no self control.

he only hit me 1 time and that was my fault not his

Really... you exercise Telekinetic powers now and MADE him hit you with his own hands against his will with your awesome brain power like on X-Men?

Unless you could... this is HIS fault not yours.

If he had the brain power of a turnip he would have walked away from you first. BEFORE he beat you.

No I was the one that made him mad that it all
He said sorry the next day and that he never hurt me agrain
I am seeing him in about a hour so I am going to tell him about the baby and see what he thinks about it all

I think we have a junior Masochist in love with an abusive sadist...

no i was the one that made him mad that it all
he said sorry the next day and that he never hurt me agrain
i am seeing him in about a hour so i am going to tell him about the baby and see what he thinks about it all

You better have someone with you (meaning at least being around a lot of people... because he did it once... it will only be easier a second time... he'll make you believe its YOUR fault you got pregnant even though he didn't even use a condom.

I do not think he will hurt me he might get mad at me for getting pregnant but I am hoping he will be OK with it

You better tell your family too...

Honestly I've known too many losers like him... you are in danger anytime you are with him... no matter what supposedly made him mad before... this is going to be far wose because it means he will owe you half of everything he makes far at least the next 18 years for child support... and likely even longer in the UK. Does he even have a job?

That why I think that having a abortion will be better then keeping the baby as he will never be happy about it and more then likely go off when he finds out but I want him to know as he is the dad
Yes he as a part time job

This gets worse and worse -

I'll ask again - who is paying for the abortion?

Part time job... not even good enough to get a full time job... real good pick in guys there... can't even get his own place with that... could probibly fit everythign he owns in a bag.

You still don't understand a word of what everyone here has been telling you...

Well every society needs someone to do the nasty low paying jobs nobody else will do... and she's on a fast track to being that person.

It will be me as it's my fault that I am pregnant

Yes right...


Clearly not the sharpest pencil in the cup.

I'm torn between passive-aggressive, not the sharpest knife in the drawer and a troll.

Still deciding.

The question of who will pay for this surgery is apparently never going to be answered and so -

In order to end the pain I will vote yes, it is your fault.

Smoothy agrees with me.

Now if WG agrees it's 3 out of 3.

At best it's 2 out of 3 and the "yes, it's your fault" side wins.

Maybe we could all chip in and send a check (cheque)?

No it my fault no need to tell me that I know it
I am going to see what he says tonight when he comes over and go from that

Have been thinking -- it might really be MY fault. It's as much mine as it is yours, Amy.

I think the stagnant British and European Economy is her fault too... maybe we should inform the British Prime Minister?

You know what I mean by it being my fault
That he will get in jail or like that if anyone finds out etc

No, the economy problems are MY fault. Amy had nothing to do with that.

you know what i mean by it being my fault
that he will get in jail or like that if anyone finds out ect
Who did something to make jail a possibility?

Going to meet him now to tell him
Thank you everyone for your help
Amy

I guess there is even more to this than she's admitting to.

Maybe something we said will sink into her head before he shows up... but I'm not holding my breath. You have to want help and accept it for any advice to have value.

it my fault as he asked me if i wanted to when his parents were away and i said yes as he had been on about for some time and i did not want him to go as i love him and he loves me
i know what i did was silly but i do not want him to get done for it as it not his fault

This just confirmed what smoothy was saying. He has been asking for sex for some time, and you felt you would lose him if you didn't give in. But you were under age (the age of consent in the UK is 16. Plus since he was 18 that makes it worse). That means that you couldn't not legally consent and he should have known better.


it will be me as it's my fault that i am preg

No it is NOT your fault. He refused to use protection. He coerced you. You were underage. So the fault lies mostly with him.

I agree with the others, as soon as he can latch unto some other girl, he will. Even if you did get an abortion and no one ever knows about it, eventually he will tire of you.

I hope I'm wrong, but I doubt it. Your first clue will be what happens tonight when you tell him.
If he offers to stand by you or even pay for the abortion, those will be good signs. But if he gets mad at you, especially if he throws you out, you will know that he doesn't care about you and you are better off without him.

In that situation you need to tell your parents and report his rape to the police.

Let us know how things go.

Hi
I got back from seeing him I told him and all he said was that we needed time to think about things and then we can talk in a few weeks
He said to me not to tell anyone about the baby just yet and let us talk about it and then see about things
I guess everyone was right about him in someways it made me mad that he was like this and other OK about it
I think I might keep the baby without him as he wanted to just get away from me the min I told him about it
Thank you for the help
Amy

You are a fool if you don't make him pay for raising the kid... he OWES you that much... under the law. You will be legally ENTITLED to that money. Especially for him being such an a s s with you about it. He's probibly done this to other girls before... and is likely to do it with others in the future. As long as he gets away without having to pay for it. And no you don't even have to see him to make him pay for it.

And because your life is going to forever change... you will no longer be the average 16 year old girl... you will be a mother... you will not be able to do the things your friends do... and in fact many of your friends won't be your friends much longer...

You should go to whatever authority in the UK collects or forces child support payments to be made.. that's a LOT of money that you will need because its very expensive to raise a child. And you will need every bit of money you can get.

I will have a look about that tomorrow
Thanks smoothy

i will have a look about that tomorrow
thanks smoothy

You won't get child support until after the child is born.. but you will have many doctor visits before then... talk to your parents... you are going to need their help and support.

Yes they will be upset... but the longer you wait the more upset they will be for not telling them.

I guess
Will tell them soon

that we needed time to think about things and then we can talk in a few weeks
he said to me not to tell anyone about the baby just yet and let us talk about it and

Yes, you need to talk about it, but you can't wait a " few weeks". At your age, your body may not be fully developed for child birth. So you need to be under a doctor's care ASAP if you plan on having the child. So you need to make some decisions now.

He asked me not to so he cound think about everything and I get what you mean

I understand and I don't dispute he needs time to digest this. But you can't afford to give him a lot of time. You need to tell him that you have to see a doctor next week. So you both have to make some decisions.

Next week that's soon he wanted weeks (well till he called)
Thanks scottgem

next week thats soon he wanted weeks (well till he called)
thanks scottgem


You are not listening. You don't have weeks. I don't know how far along you are, but the fetus needs to be checked, you need to start on pre-natal vitamins and more. If you decide on an abortion it has to be done before a certain point. So you can't wait weeks for him to call!

Also, I wonder about your relationship if you go weeks without contact. If you are as in love as you indicated, you would be talking to him almost daily.

OK I will text him and see what he says about it as I want him to be OK with it when I do go

We talk most days but sometimes not . It all really on if he wants to talk or not and if he is in a good mood

he asked me not to so he cound think about everything and i get what you mean

Does he need time to get out of the country? Move to another city? Why even consider what he wants... you saw how he reacted.

Is HE supporting you? No... your parents are... so what he wants or doesn't want has absolutely no bearing on anything at this point.

I understand and I don't dispute he needs time to digest this. But you can't afford to give him a lot of time. You need to tell him that you have to see a doctor next week. So you both have to make some decisions.


And while he's thinking your baby is growing inside you.

Did ANYONE answer who is paying for the abortion?

ok i will text him and see what he says about it as i want him to be ok with it when i do go

we talk most days but sometimes not . it all really on if he wants to talk or not and if he is in a good mood


I hope the baby never gets on his nerves - or he's not in a good mood and the baby needs/wants something.

He did not text back last night
I am going to tell my mum and dad sometime today and see what they are like but I no that they will not for happy about as they did not want to me stay with him
And paying for the abortion if I do have one he said that he put toward if he makes up his mind that I am having one

You need to see a doctor Monday. Your baby doesn't have a couple of weeks. You need to be checked and on vitamins to prevent birth defects.

Are you capable of taking care of a handicapped child? If you don't start vitamins NOW, you might just have a child with birth defects.

I don't want that on the baby but he asked me to wait so that he had time to think what he wanted to do about it and then tell me what to do then when he made his mind up
I am telling my mum and dad today sometime and see what they say about it what I know will not be anything good

This is YOUR body and the health of YOUR baby! You do not have to do anything he wants you to do because I promise you he will not be a father to this child, but you will be a mother.

Telling your parents is going to be hard, I understand that. They will be angry and disappointed in the beginning, but you need them there for support because I can promise you that he won't be there to support you.

You truly don't have time to waste here. Do you even know how far along you are?

I think about 5 weeks but not very sure
I know but it like up to him really like he said last night that it his baby as well and that he wants me to do what he says to do as he know's best
I think he might be a good dad but he does get mad a lot of the time what is not OK really but it just the way he is

I'm sorry, but he does NOT know what is best. You know how I know that? Because I'm a nurse, a labor and delivery nurse to be specific. Birth defects can happen during the very early stages of pregnancy and some of them cannot be reversed or cured.

Speaking from a professional standpoint, this guy is an idiot and doesn't know anything about early pregnancy. Also, it's not up to him, it's not HIS body, it's YOURS!

I get angrier and angrier at this abusive idiot the more I read this.

He only hit me 1 time and that was my fault as I made him mad and he had a hard day
He will get mad when he finds outs that I have told my mum and dad when he told me not too but I understand why I have to as I do not want the baby to have birth defects

he only hit me 1 time and that was my fault as i made him mad and he had a hard day
he will get mad when he finds outs that i have told my mum and dad when he told me not too but i understand why i have to as i do not want the baby to have birth defects

It's never your fault. Did you form his hand into a fist and grab his arm and hit yourself with his hand? If the answer to that question is no, then it's not your fault.

This boy is manipulative, controlling and abusive. Plain and simple.

He hit you once. Next time he will choke you, give you a black eye, etc. The first "hit" is the easiest, it gets worse after that.

He said he never hurt me agrain and he was sorry about it after

That's what most abusers say. It's the apology phase of abuse.

He OK most of the time really
And he was OK when I told him about the baby he just said he wanted me to wait a little time before I tell anyone but I am going to tell my mum and dad today and he will not be happy with that when he finds but I want the best for the baby

Who cares if he's happy? He's not going to be there to support you anyway. You will be alone supporting this child without him. I can promise you that.

So what if he get's mad? You need to have a healthy baby and you may not if you listen to this arse.

It's after noon in the UK. Have you told your parents yet? Have you told them that he's hit you?

Do us all a favor and get off the computer and tell your parents, then come back after you have talked to them.

They are down in the living room now so I will go and tell them now and they don't know that he hit me as he said it best they did not know as they break us . They will if they know
Thank you for the help I will go and tell them now
Amy

For your health I truly hope they will break you up.

I told my mum and dad they were both really mad and my dad as walked out and not seen him for hours but my mum was upset but she was kind of OK with it after a few hours and she is beening really great about it
I did not say anything about him hitting me as that have made it worst and all as my mum wants me to break up with him and nothing more to do with him but just so glad that my mum is sort of OK about it but my dad gone off somewhere as he was mad about it
Thanks for all the help
Amy

i told my mum and dad they were both really mad and my dad as walked out and not seen him for hours but my mum was upset but she was kind of ok with it after a few hours and she is beening really great about it
i did not say anything about him hitting me as that have made it worst and all as my mum wants me to break up with him and nothing more to do with him but just so glad that my mum is sort of ok about it but my dad gone off somewhere as he was mad about it
thanks for all the help
amy


And who is paying for the abortion AND what means of birth control are you going to sue AFTER the abortion (or childbirth or whatever you choose). Has the knowledge that you were underage and this is legal rape "struck" your parents?

My mum said that she pay for the abortion when I have it as she does not want me to having a baby at 16 and after that I do not know what birth contal I will get but I will have a look at some
She as not said anything really about my boyfriend apart from she wants us to end now but I do not as I love him too much to do that when it was me that was OK with everything
My dad that gone off and not come home yet as I want to talk to talk but he turn his phone off etc etc just wish he understand I little more

Your dad is coming to come back around, its just going to take some time. Because... yes he's upset you are his little girl... and always will be. If you ever doubted how much he cares about you... the fact he's upset over this is all the proof you need. Moms and dads get upset in different ways... only moms are a bit better at dealing with it most times.

Listen to them... take their advice. You need them both now more than ever... unlike this other guy... they really do have your best interests at heart. Remember they have a lot of experience in the world you don't have yet.

My mum wants me to break up with my boyfriend and have a abortion
But I want to still be with him and in someways keep the baby as well but she said that she wants this all over with and that I's be better over without him and the baby but I was thinking that if I keep the baby that I guess I might be a good mum to the baby without my boyfriend in the baby life or my life

Having ANYTHING to do with him is dumb... seriously... he is a loser... if you stick with losers you will never have anything and will be dirt poor your entire life... if he doesn't hurt or kill you first.

I'm a guy... I can spot other guys like that... I've seen so many over my life its not hard to do... and I have no emotional interest here... I'm being completely objective with what I know about him... and he has all the characteristics of an abuser. You can't see them because of your emotional involvement... but your mom is giving you very good advice.

I don't want to let him go as he always been around me for years more as a mate before we got together and all
I am going to see what my mum says about keeping the baby and see if my dad will come around to the idea of it and start talking to me

So then this guy will get mad about something and "accidentally" push you down hard, maybe down the stairs, and oooops, you lose the baby (and end up in the hospital with a broken arm or leg or a concussion too). I'm sorry, but your boyfriend is dangerous to your health. If he hit you once and got away with it, it will happen again, believe me. And he will again make you believe it was your fault.

He never gone to hit me agrain just got mad and walked out and I do make him mad as most of the time he is really nice and kind to me and everyone when we are out together

Of course he will hit you again. You will do something to make him mad (that will be his excuse), and he will blame you for his lack of self control.

Yes welcome to being trained to be a abused spouse, they get you to believe it is your fault and even deserve it, And as most they do it again and again but when it is over tell you they are sorry, won't do it again, and the women all bruised up forgives them, It may be a broken arm but the man forgives her for not being able to cook his meals for him. Since it is all her fault.

The hitting just gets worst and worst.

I just want him to be happy with me and me with him and are baby to have a good life to if he wants me to have the baby

"He" is not part of this equation any longer. He doesn't want the baby and has already hit you, opening the door wide to hit you again and again. Tell your mom that he hit you. You owe her that tidbit of information.

She will tell my dad that will make him more mad at me for not telling him to start with
If I do tell her about it that why I did not say anything today to her and dad when I told them about the baby as I did not want my boyfriend to get into anything about it

WG, you're talking to a brick wall - and, of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.

I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -

For example - she was underage. She's pregnant. She's now 16. I can't believe HER parents didn't get the news and immediately call HIS parents (using loud voices).

Do you think they would not have noticed you were pregnant at some point? Have you seen a prenant woman in her last trimester? A blind person would notice it.

You won't have a good life with him.. how could you, he doesn't even have a full time job to support himself much less you AND the baby... Babies are expensive... Wives are expensive... living a decent much less a GOOD life is expensive... That takes not just a full time job... but a very good full time job, the kind of thing he's not capable of right now... or maybe ever.

But like we have to eventually say to people who just will NOT listen.

Don't come back and whine later... because WE TOLD YOU SO... and you didn't listen.

And girls in your current situation, that don't listen to others... ALWAYS regret the choices they make than the years they've lost before they come to their senses... by then all the good men are married... or married and divorced and have kids of their own, alimoney, child support... etc, etc... etc. And its too late for the life you want because you missed the chance when you had it.

WG, you're talking to a brick wall
You noticed that too? But she loves him.

of course, it's pretty obvious that I believe none of this, that this in the category of being strung along.

I hope I'm wrong - spidey senses. This is just not playing out for me -
It's a hot summer day and the cats are asleep, the crossword puzzle is finished, and the chicken salad for a light supper has been made. Her "broken record" is the tip-off, isn't it.

Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your boyfriend will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...

Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your bf will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...
Did you read the entire thread? The boyfriend has already physically abused her and doesn't want her to tell her parents until he has "thought about this for a few weeks." You are talking about a normal, rational couple expecting a baby. This is not the case in this thread.

Did you read the entire thread? The boyfriend has already physically abused her and doesn't want her to tell her parents until he has "thought about this for a few weeks." You are talking about a normal, rational couple expecting a baby. This is not the case in this thread.


All right calm down.. No I did not read the entire thread.. only the question...

Please ignore my comment

Alright calm down .. No I did not read the entire thread.. only the question...

Please ignore my comment


You couldn't be any more disrespectful it you tried. Calm down?

I realize you are relatively new here so everyone will probably cut you some slack for a brief period.

Hi.. what you could do is tell your boyfriend first..

Once you and your boyfriend have decided you are well prepared for this baby, then its time for the parents. You and your boyfriend should go together and sit down with your parents.. and tell them that way. Make sure they know that you and your boyfriend are prepared and will support each other all the way.
Apart from having sex, your parents will worry about whether your bf will support you and will not just run away! Once they know that he is there for you, it won't be so bad for them

So it's time to find out what your boyfriend wants...



Think how much time we could all save if we didn't bother reading the thread.

You do realize that this was legal rape, that he abuses her, that he works part time?

You noticed that too? But she loves him.

It's a hot summer day and the cats are asleep, the crossword puzzle is finished, and the chicken salad for a light supper has been made. Her "broken record" is the tip-off, isn't it.


Yes, I predict this will go on and on.

Chicken salad? I settled for bbq ribs on the deck. It was more about the deck and less about bbq. MY dogs have been awake all day long. They will S-L-E-E-E-E-E-E-P well tonight. One of us is going to "try out" doggie half-day day care on Wednesday.

What was I talking about? Right, if this is for real I get that she loves him. Maybe he's the only male in Town in that particular age bracket. I just can't believe her parents haven't called his parents - screaming - and OP is so calm. Oh, well.

She enjoys getting beaten, some people are into that you know.

She enjoys getting beaten, some people are into that you know.


Well, and if a beater meets a beatee it works out very well.

We could chip in and buy them whips and chains for a wedding present. Maybe some leather gear... unless latex is their thing.