I have been married for a year,, it hasn't been the best year of our life since my husband are I got engaged for only a year and it was long distance. The first few months of marriage we used to fight a lot... Now like any other man, my husband has a past with a few girls, which I don't mind but a month before one year anniversery I caught him sending e-mails to his ex girlfriend which he claims he didn't love. I noticed that he used to contact her every time me and him got into a huge fight. In one of the e-mails she asked him why he didn't seem excited about being married and if he was in love with me and that was a month after our marriage... he replied saying I'm not excited cause "it is nothing too special, sure I had to marry and have a family but for me love isn't easy to feel", the day he replied to her was a day when we had our biggest fight and he left the house in anger. But still when I read that it broke me so hard and I asked for a divorce. He got so mad and said he will never divorce me and swore to God and on his parents life that everything in the e-mail was not true and he only contacted her when he felt frustrated of all the fights we have... He felt so guilty and bad and kept apologizing and said he can never let me go cause of a stupid e-mail sent to an ex who he didn't even love!!


I need your help, it's been two months since that day and he's changed so much to the better and Swore to God that he will never do anything to hurt me and if he ever did then I should leave him but he asked for another chance...


My question is do you think the things he said in the e-mail could have been true or was it out of frustration cause we used to fight almost every couple of days and we stop talking to each other for days... But why would someone tell an ex that he didn't love his wife!!


I need your honest opinion please

PS: I Saw the E-mail with my own eyes ...

What was the context of the email? Was he complaining about you to her? I would go cautiously with this situation. It seems to me that he's not sure of his present situation and is leaning emotionally on the ex for advice and comfort.

The only way to know is to have an honest conversation with your husband. Presumably he knows.

I don't know which side of him is honest - the side you see or the side he presents to his "ex." Do you?

Who knows why anybody does anything? If his level of frustration is such that he's reaching out to an "ex," you have a problem.

My specific concern? You are very jealous over this "ex." https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/why-am-so-obsessed-jealous-husbands-past-help-582762.html I think the more you hound him the worse it will get.

Maybe you need to speak to a counsellor or someone who can work you through your feelings before either you or your husband gives up on your marriage.

Judy,, I agree, I see that so often-the same question worded differently but the same, if you know what I mean. Yes... very annoying