How do I deal with an alcoholic son-in-law with a daughter that is 13? Our daughter died when she was 7 months old, they were married for twenty years and finally had their miracle! Our son-in-law is 57 and been troubled with alcohol all his life! We are at loss as to how to handle all these problems he cause our granddaughter and us, we have tried everything! She is so insecure and refuses to stay alone in their trailer so we have her most of the time which is good, but he has custody and calls all the shots! We are in our 70's and have given up our retirement. He is not dependable and spends his money on drinking and pull tabs. We feel pulled between our granddaughter and her dad, we are scared what is going to happen?