View Full Version : I slept with my best friend. Twice. ADVICE?
secretsally
Jun 19, 2012, 11:28 AM
Okay, so me and my best friend hooked up twice. We met in 8th grade and I had a huge public crush on him. Freshman year it died away, and by sophomore year we became really close friends. Went on double dates, chilled, etc. now we're both in college and single. Both times sex was initiated by him, first time he freaked out, said it would never happen again. I was okay with that. We were at his family's summer house cleaning it and getting it ready for the summer. But then it happened again three weeks later. We haven't talked about what happened, but he was fine the morning after it happened the second time. The weeks in between everything was normal, and everything seems normal now. But I’m confused about how I feel, and I’m curious to how he might feel. Any advice?
mearbhall
Jun 19, 2012, 11:38 AM
You need to talk to him about it.
CoruptedAngel
Jun 19, 2012, 10:20 PM
Talk to him about it but try to keep it as a friendship from now on! In most cases I have learned it can ruin a friendship. I mean it really depends on the individuals but if you want him comfortably in your life for the rest of your life then please just keep it at a best friend level. It's so much better.
Fr_Chuck
Jun 20, 2012, 05:22 AM
I would say he has more feelings and ideas than just friends, or he wants it to be friends who have sex for fun sex. ( there are many who try this)
I would say that the relationship has passed being friends at this point and of course you went along with the sex also, so you must have wanted and enjoyed it also.
Decide where you want this to go and talk to him
talaniman
Jun 20, 2012, 10:07 AM
You are friends having the casual sex together, you know, consenting adults, no commitment or strings attached. You wonder what it means because of your feelings, yet you never say NO, or asks him what this means to him.
Its up to you to talk and get clarity, because he is enjoying his good fortune that he has a friend who gives him free sex. You both are acting on lust, and you have become that comfortable, but you don't talk about it, WHY??
YOU should before you get carried away with feelings, but have no facts!