azsummertymeaz
Jun 19, 2012, 02:52 AM
My unmarried sister with 2 children recently moved to AZ from Indiana. The father of the two children had once again left their home to "go to the store" and did not return or contact her for over 24 hours. He left knowing children (23 mo & 6mo) where out of formula and milk, two essential items for their diets. He also left with the only working phone, and the only working vehicle. Apparently this is not the first time and there were many other "questionable" situations such as money missing, jobs that where fictitious, and the one that finally made her leave was the cheating. Her living in Indiana with only one semi-supportive family member and no support system to utilize she has decided to move to AZ, where I live along with many other family members close by for support. These family member's are the one's who have bought the mobile home he, my sister, her two children, his two disabled parents (5 mo) and his brother (several months) all have lived in after my without paying any bills. They are unmarried with his names on the birth certificates, therefore according to Indiana law, establishes paternity, which is not being denied.
AZ is a place they have many time considered moving to, usually with him lying about a job opportunity or many other lies he has told to her over the last 3 years to deceive and manipulate her into staying with him.
His parents revealed that 10 year old child he had 2 years previously been ordered to pay support for out of California, was not the result of a one night stand, leaving him with a child he had no idea about, but in fact he was married to the child's mother, and just decided to not pursue any rights to the child.
His last year tax returns totaled $3500 and the only way the children and my sister (who is stay home mom & full-time student) have had any basic needs met such as housing, clothing, food, and utilities, is by what little school money she has left over from loans, whatever state assistance is available, and the other large portion of it is paid for by our mother and her father.Although he recently got a job, he hurt himself and is claiming he is going to sue for workman's comp through an attorney after being denied benefits. Out og 36 months as a couple, he only worked 5 months and admitted via instant messaging that he sells pills to obtain cash.. All assets including trailer, and two cars where purchased by her family member's or given to her to be used to take care of the children.
He has admitted to her several times (via IM which is all being stored)his mistakes are a result of the pill problem he has been hiding majority of the relationship.
My sister decided she was going to move out of the mobile home, sell the mobile home to his parents for far less than worth, and only take the items that she purchased, and baby items. He agreed to this arrangement so no issue there, except for moving day when he became very irate and aggressive towards my sister and I, so I insisted we call the police to make she we were protected physically. He immediately calmed down, and no formal report was made that I know of but there were several witnesses. The police where also called to the trailer a second time 2 days later because his disabled parents felt threatened and not knowing the proper way to evict someone, tried to have the police make him leave. We have a written agreement with the parents for payment on the trailer to be made in July and they are now taking the proper steps for eviction through the courts to have him evicted.
Now to the questions at hand. I came to IN to help her move stuff and take care of kids, and pay for all expenses since he withdrew the pay check he was paid the day after I arrived and refused to help with the cost of diapers or wipes. A verbal agreement through conversation and some instant messaging was made , that she would be liquidating all her assets, and move with the children here to AZ. He had two opportunities to spend time with children, both times being several hours. Now one thing important to know is he has rarely, almost never been left alone with these two children for any extended period and so my sister had to stay and assist him in caring for the children. He was never their primary caretaker, and I do know that that is taken into consideration with most courts. After having a consultation with a AZ family law attorney today I understand that jurisdiction is in Indiana until she establishes 6 months residency.
He has gone back and forth and become very irate over the phone recently demanding to talk to kids at times that kids were not available or home. We have never turned him down from talking or communicating with the children unless is was absolutely necessary due to unavailability or him being irate.
Since he has been so up and down and we now semi questioning his mental state due to multiple strange comments referring to suicide and deep depression in emails and im's and conversation, we want to know what he is capable of doing from his side through the courts that could jeopardize the children staying with there mom in az. We are now logging all conversation and if needed we have an audio recorder handy to provide additional proof of her side of the story.
We would like to know also if she should wait to file for custody, which after the way he goes back and forth, and he is a pathological lyer, he will never actually do what he agrees to unless its his way.
Sorry so long, just lots of connecting details to the situation and I would love to hear any advice that will help us just provide and protect where they will be best taken care of.
Thank You!
AZ is a place they have many time considered moving to, usually with him lying about a job opportunity or many other lies he has told to her over the last 3 years to deceive and manipulate her into staying with him.
His parents revealed that 10 year old child he had 2 years previously been ordered to pay support for out of California, was not the result of a one night stand, leaving him with a child he had no idea about, but in fact he was married to the child's mother, and just decided to not pursue any rights to the child.
His last year tax returns totaled $3500 and the only way the children and my sister (who is stay home mom & full-time student) have had any basic needs met such as housing, clothing, food, and utilities, is by what little school money she has left over from loans, whatever state assistance is available, and the other large portion of it is paid for by our mother and her father.Although he recently got a job, he hurt himself and is claiming he is going to sue for workman's comp through an attorney after being denied benefits. Out og 36 months as a couple, he only worked 5 months and admitted via instant messaging that he sells pills to obtain cash.. All assets including trailer, and two cars where purchased by her family member's or given to her to be used to take care of the children.
He has admitted to her several times (via IM which is all being stored)his mistakes are a result of the pill problem he has been hiding majority of the relationship.
My sister decided she was going to move out of the mobile home, sell the mobile home to his parents for far less than worth, and only take the items that she purchased, and baby items. He agreed to this arrangement so no issue there, except for moving day when he became very irate and aggressive towards my sister and I, so I insisted we call the police to make she we were protected physically. He immediately calmed down, and no formal report was made that I know of but there were several witnesses. The police where also called to the trailer a second time 2 days later because his disabled parents felt threatened and not knowing the proper way to evict someone, tried to have the police make him leave. We have a written agreement with the parents for payment on the trailer to be made in July and they are now taking the proper steps for eviction through the courts to have him evicted.
Now to the questions at hand. I came to IN to help her move stuff and take care of kids, and pay for all expenses since he withdrew the pay check he was paid the day after I arrived and refused to help with the cost of diapers or wipes. A verbal agreement through conversation and some instant messaging was made , that she would be liquidating all her assets, and move with the children here to AZ. He had two opportunities to spend time with children, both times being several hours. Now one thing important to know is he has rarely, almost never been left alone with these two children for any extended period and so my sister had to stay and assist him in caring for the children. He was never their primary caretaker, and I do know that that is taken into consideration with most courts. After having a consultation with a AZ family law attorney today I understand that jurisdiction is in Indiana until she establishes 6 months residency.
He has gone back and forth and become very irate over the phone recently demanding to talk to kids at times that kids were not available or home. We have never turned him down from talking or communicating with the children unless is was absolutely necessary due to unavailability or him being irate.
Since he has been so up and down and we now semi questioning his mental state due to multiple strange comments referring to suicide and deep depression in emails and im's and conversation, we want to know what he is capable of doing from his side through the courts that could jeopardize the children staying with there mom in az. We are now logging all conversation and if needed we have an audio recorder handy to provide additional proof of her side of the story.
We would like to know also if she should wait to file for custody, which after the way he goes back and forth, and he is a pathological lyer, he will never actually do what he agrees to unless its his way.
Sorry so long, just lots of connecting details to the situation and I would love to hear any advice that will help us just provide and protect where they will be best taken care of.
Thank You!