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sammy130
Jun 18, 2012, 01:30 AM
My lover has broken my trust. I met him 5 months back and he proposed me for marriage. He used to show me true love and use to cry for me. But he lies a lot. He told me that he is no more adding female friends on Facebook, but had hid the friend list from me. But one day I came across certain comments on his wall on Facebook, of his female friend. The comments showed that the female friend is interested in making relation with him and he was responding her by pretending that he is still single and giving her a chance on him. When I asked about the whole matter, he just replied saying that he was just entertaining the girl just to increase the number of likes and comments on Facebook status and pictures. And he also apologized for what he did. But when I look at the whole matter, I feel as he has broken my trust by saying a lie that he doesn't add any female friends on Facebook but he was still doing it. Now, I’m very much confused whether to finish this relation or continue with it, when he has broken my trust by doing so?
I will be thankful to you if you answer or advise on it.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 18, 2012, 04:19 AM
No trust, no relationship, plain and simple. If you don't trust him, get up and leave you deserve better.

talaniman
Jun 18, 2012, 06:30 AM
Makes no sense to give your heart to someone you have caught in lies, does it? Can you not do better than a liar, and cheater? Sure you can.

mmresd
Jun 18, 2012, 10:50 AM
If there is no trust, then there is no relationship, trust gone, then get out of there... no point in continuing a relationship with someone who is only going to continue causing you heartache.

Homegirl 50
Jun 18, 2012, 11:58 AM
He proposed to you after 5 months and you accepted? You didn't even know him, but I guess you do now.
You don't trust him, lose him.

Jimmy78
Jun 18, 2012, 09:53 PM
If there is no trust then move on and find someone else to give your heart and trust to.

Silver Lining
Jun 18, 2012, 10:32 PM
Never trust a person who lies to u, and Never lie to a person who trusts u,,

U trusted him, he lied to u,, what are you waiting for,, save yourself before it's too late,, today, it's 1 lie, tomorrow it's a hundred,, it is better to decide on your future right now when the wound is fresh. If you decide to give him a 2nd chance, and he betrays you after you guys are married, what then?

Homegirl 50 He proposed to you after 5 months and you accepted? You didn't even know him, but I guess you do now.

Homegirl,, my hubby proposed to me 4 months after we met,, we started dating after he proposed,, we were friends ONLY until he proposed. We dated for 1 n half years after engmt and have been married for almost 6 years now.

He has flaws, so do I,, but if the person is right, all you need is fraction of a second to trust him...

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 19, 2012, 03:46 AM
Homegirl 50 He proposed to you after 5 months and you accepted? You didn't even know him, but I guess you do now.

Homegirl,,, my hubby proposed to me 4 months after we met,,, we started dating after he proposed,,, we were friends ONLY until he proposed. we dated for 1 n half years after engmt n have been married for almost 6 years now.

he has flaws, so do i,,, but if the person is right, all u need is fraction of a second to trust him...

Getting proposed without first without getting to know one another is foolish and almost never works. Almost.

Silver Lining
Jun 19, 2012, 06:14 AM
Well,, m one of the lucky ones I guess...

talaniman
Jun 19, 2012, 06:29 AM
Early proposals are quite common in some culture, as are arranged marriages.

cyber_i9
Jun 19, 2012, 06:38 AM
All Relations Are Based on TRUST
TRUST Is Shown By Truthfullness
It is obvious that a lying person can't be trusted at all this lie is one there is no wonder how many other lies is he Hiding?
You are lucky that u caught a lie in the beginning and stopped before it was too late.