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Maxmetalhead
Jun 15, 2012, 05:55 AM
So, this is my story. I was in a short-term relationship (3 months) with a girl, who cheated on me. She has two other persons in her life now: 1, the one she were in love with, but that guy decided to go abroad for work. This brought depression in her but what I found out is she is still in love with that guy and she never really broke up with him. At the beginning when I asked her about her relationship she said she was single and wanted honest relationship but she was already committed with a guy, now this is the guy number 2, who lives in UK but she hide it from me. She used to tell me about her dreams- to go abroad, to struggle there, to earn and fulfill her mother's wish. I guess this is the reason why she's committed with that guy. But she continued dating with me. By doing this, she played with my feelings and she also cheated to those 2 guys.

She made promises that were meant to be broken. She started to ignore me before she sent me that lets break up message. I was too much dependent in her that I couldn't resist the pain so I kept on contacting her.. sending texts, calling sometimes but the way she talked on phone just weren't the same and the way she didn't reply my texts only gave me heartaches. But after that text by her saying “Dear I can't be with you in your life, sorry” just ended my hope of everything. I knew nothing ever happen now so it's better not to contact her anymore. She kept on calling me and texting me to pick up the phone but I just ignored her call for 1 day I guess I had to keep ignoring her 'cause I just didn't know what I was going to talk with her, but the next day I pick up the phone and she said something like “why the hell you didn't pick up my call? That's all right you don't care for me” and she cut the phone. And minutes later text arrives “its okay I'm going far away from you. You want to hear what's wrong with me so listen I have my heart pain and I don't how long I'm going to survive. I'm sorry for everything I've done and I'm sorry that my love for you is true. Bye forever, take care. Want to tell you everything about me but now I'm done.” A couple of minutes later another text arrives “Actually I thought your phone lost or something happened to you so I was worried. I was in hospital last night, now I'm fine to know you're fine. Thank you for giving me moment to life my short life. Bye.” Her those messages made me feel guilty and then went apologizing her like It was my mistake who didn't get the correct meaning of her earlier message and I was responsible for the break up. But then why the hell she would dump me just for not answering her for just 1 freaking day, right?

She obviously wanted to get away from me because our secret relationship might have been creating problem to her relationships with other guys. She called me later that evening saying “alright, let's go out for picnic this Saturday, okay?” And I said Okay. We kept normal texting for around one week and then again she started to ignore my texts. We still haven't met since then 'cause my end semester exam is going on. Even though she left me for another guy, I think she still knows that I love her so much because I've done many things to make her feel like that, even after she left me. Now I don't have any contact with her since June 12 and applying the No-Contact rule. I have deactivated my Facebook account as well. I don't have any hope to get her back but I just want her to feel regret about losing me because I loved her so much. So fellas, what do ya'll say about it?

talaniman
Jun 16, 2012, 01:14 PM
You will get over a liar and cheater and know better next time if you stick with NC, and don't give in and let her back in your life. You are hardly the first to give your heart to the wrong person. We all have, and as mad as it makes you, it's a learning experience.

Her regrets will not help you any way, so heal your ego brother!