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Delisag
Jun 14, 2012, 10:49 AM
Me and my ex was together for over a year he has four kids I have three. His kids an family adore me an my kids love him we had a good relationship. Until he broke up with me he said he had too many burdens an didn't want to put me through it. He was still legally married but separated for 9 years. He wanted to get his divorce so he can freely be in a relationship an commit.

Since the break up he been having his own life, I been having mine. We kept communication, but for the past couple if months we been going out to dinner an movies, he works at the college I graduated from. I go up there sometimes an bring my daughter who loves him he sees her he comes up to her kisses her hand, he tells her he loves her, she asks what about mama he said all of us. He jokes with me, he blows me kisses, he gave me a rose. Just recently my tire blew out I didn't have away to get home he came picked me up. He hugs me an out if being broken up for 8 months we shared intimacy for the first time twice.

What does this mean just two months ago he said his divorce will be final in July an he still cared for me he also told me he had a dream we had a baby girl together. Does my ex still loves me? Should I ask what we are doing since we had sex twice, should I keep hanging in there because I love him or walk away, is it just about sex?

get8p
Jun 14, 2012, 11:37 AM
should I keep hanging in there because I love him or walk away, is it just about sex

Well, ins't that a two questions within a question?
I doubt asking for relationship advices can ever do any good, so the best I can suggest is to first understand for yourself whether u want this or not. If u do, tell him u want you to get back together. If he refuses, that's all it says - I doubt you should waste your time on an empty hopes.

joypulv
Jun 14, 2012, 11:41 AM
Odds are 45.3% in favor of getting together again, vs 54.7% not.
NO - of course strangers online don't know what the chances are! He does more than anyone, and you second, and you find out by ASKING him and discussing it. If you don't want to sound pushy and demanding, then just ask little gentle questions here and there during pleasant quiet moments.
You haven't mentioned finances at all, which I think will be key to what is going to happen. We don't know if he is paying his wife, will be paying alimony, if he makes much money, if you work or not, who has his kids and when and who supports them, and who is going to be supporting a family of 9 if you marry?

talaniman
Jun 14, 2012, 12:47 PM
Stop having sex, and you won't confuse yourself or give yourself false hope. Then you will see with clear eyes what's really going on.

Delisag
Jun 14, 2012, 01:44 PM
He won't be paying alimony he have two kids with ex wife he pays child support, his two younger kids lives with their mom he pays child support for them. When we lived together we both took care of the finances and my kids. His kids visited on weekends.

We been broken up for 8 months we haven't been engaging sexually until this week, we been going out. So that's why I'm confused is his intent on getting back together. I was confused before sex because of tge things he do for me an on top of that going out, now sex .

talaniman
Jun 14, 2012, 04:53 PM
You give him all he wants way to easily. But are afraid to talk turkey about the future. Talk, no sex, no movies, no more false hope.