I wonder if other members feel like I do sometimes -

Sad and a little overwhelmed at all the pain and confusion contained within these boards.

Do you feel like pouring every bit of knowledge and experience and wisdom you have out onto these pages in the hope that it may be of help to someone?

If so here’s your chance.

I have created this thread in the hope that you all will have some words of wisdom that you would like to contribute.

Don't count on anyone else to make you happy. The only person in the entire world that can make you happy is YOU.

You get what you expect to get. Begin right now to expect the very best of everything that this world has to offer - and know that you deserve it.

I would hope that posters read and absorb what members respond to. Most of us respond from personal experience and/or work experience dealing with various situations. If we can positively affect one person's life, then I believe we are doing a good thing.

There are posters who just do not listen and we cannot be responsible for that. There are some who just do not even take the time to spend 60 seconds on Google to search their own topic, and for them, all they want is the instant answer anyway.

But there are those that genuinely ask for assistance because you can tell from their writing that they are going through something monumental. You just want to reach through the net and hug them. So many people out there looking for a safe, anonymous place to ask for help.

A bit of wisdom to pass on? "To thine ownself to be true". Do not let anyone else define who you are, what you believe or value, what you hold dear to your heart. Listen to your own intuition. If something smells wrong, it usually is. When you have to ask, "is this wrong" or "is he abusive", you already have your answer.

Not exactly my words of wisdom but words that have meant a lot...

Before I was a Mom I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom - I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom - I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.
Before I was a Mom - I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth, The joy, The love, The heartache, The wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

To be loved, you have to know how to love.

To be loved, you have to love yourself first.

Kindness is NOT weakness.

Listening is the fastest way to learning.

You are never ever alone. This journey we call life, we travel together. We may not share the same last name, we may not share the same blood type, we may not even share the same Country, but one thing for sure we do share, is the knowledge of what pain feels like, to hurt and to feel sad. To cry tears of sadness, over the loss of a relationship, a friendship, a marriage, a loved one passing. So don't ever ever feel you are all alone. Take comfort in knowing, that when you see people smiling, they once felt the same pain, the same hurt, and their smile is your proof, that you too, will make it through the pain and through all the hurt, and before long, your heart will be lifted. We only walk this way once, but we never walk it alone.

Oh shygrneyza, That was my Father's favorite song. I just got a chill. He must be either up to something, or just reminding me he loves me :) Thank you shygrneyzs for the memory of that beautiful song.

Heart,

Had to spread it...

I have a file folder so thick and heavy I could use it for weightlifting exercises - I just added the above to it. Thank you.

Those words were sent to me when millie was in the prem baby unit and have stayed with me ever since it had to be the hardest 3 months of our lives but I look at her now and it's a distant memory and I realise just how lucky I am to have her.

I don't think it is possible Laura, for a little girl to be any cuter. You could just squuuueeeze Her :)

I don't think it is possible Laura, for a little girl to be any cuter. You could just squuuueeeze Her :)


She is our world there is no doubt about that and yeah there are times I think heck what am I doing but it never lasts long she has taken her first un aided steps this past weekend she never stops amazing me and making me chuckle

curlybenswife,

I brought up 3 'ankle biters/rug rats', hard work but worth every second.

Best wishes to you and yours.

The key to real independence lies in knowing that at every moment in every instance you are creating your own reality from the thoughts you entertain. The more you acknowledge this the more power and freedom you will experience. And instead of blaming others or society for the things that go wrong in your life you now realise you are creating your own reality and therefore have the power to change it any time by any degree.

Know your motive for inviting in
The guests you entertain
And how you make the choice to keep
The thoughts that crowd your brain

Not mine but it's a quote that has been stuck in my mind since I read it years ago
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
--- Frank Herbert, Dune - Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear

My favourite has to be if you love someone set them free... its so true in many that I read

View life as a series of movie frames, the ending and meaning may not be apparent until the very end of the movie, and yet, each of the hundreds of individual frames has meaning within the context of the whole movie. View your life from your funeral, looking back at your life experiences, what have you accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but didn't? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What would you do again, and what would you change?

So many wonderful and inspirational messages have been posted here. It would be nice if people would take the time to read through this before posting their questions. Unfortunately, when it comes to their problems, they only want someone to focus on them. They are not patient enough to look around the website and get the lay of the land. I am guilty of that too. So, if I could give out any advice or words of wisdom here, I would say quite a lot, BUT, I will limit this to one thing for now:

If you are having a major crisis in your life, whatever it may be, DO NOT expect it to be magically resolved because you have chosen to post on a forum that is free of charge. Yoda does not reside here.

Wow, many excellent sentiments here. I would add only this:

The only way in with people is Love.
The only way out of trouble is Truth.
What we do matters and we are all connected, like it or not.
If we manage the details well, nothing is ever too big for us.
The bravest thing anyone can ever do is heal thyself.
And lastly, the most important in all of life is to raise a child.

Have a Life Plan. ~ Without a plan for your life, it is easier to follow the course of least resistance, to go with the flow, to drift with the current with no particular destination in mind. Having a definite plan for your life greatly simplifies the process of making hundreds of daily decisions that affect your ultimate success. When you know where you want to go, you can quickly decide if your actions are moving you toward your goal or away from it. Without definite, precise goals and a plan for their achievement, each decision must be considered in a vacuum. Definiteness of purpose provides context and allows you to relate specific actions to your overall plan.

Life is only as complicated as you make it to be.
Take responsibility for your own actions.
Stay away from toxic people.

A Story For You -

The Big Rocks

One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered over achievers he said, "Okay, time for a quiz," and pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. He also produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class yelled, "Yes." The time management expert replied, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. He dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves into the spaces between the big rocks. He then asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?" By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered. "Good," he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?" "No," the class shouted. Once again he said, "Good!" Then he took a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?" One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit more things in it!" "No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. What this illustration teaches us is this: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all. What are the "big rocks" in your life? Time with your loved ones? Your faith? Your education? Your dreams? A worthy cause? Remember to put these big rocks in first or you'll never get them in at all. So, tonight or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question, "What are the big rocks in my life? Then, put those in your jar first!"

A little different but I would say ALWAYS listen to your gut or your instinct. It will never lie to you, even if you want to avoid it or overlook it, when you have that feeling in you stomach that something's not right or that you should do a particular thing, follow that feeling.

You Always Have A Choice

If you want to see some changes in your life then make some changes in your thinking. Cultivate a good attitude, a positive attitude. I don't agree when some people say attitude is everything - but a positive attitude could save your life.

Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Okay, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' Guess what my choice was.

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. Guess what my choice was.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to join in the 'complaining' game or I can point out the positive side of life. Guess what my choice was.

A few years ago I lay in a hospital bed seriously ill, then I remembered that I had two choices, I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. Guess what my choice was.

Life is all about choices. When you get right to the bottom of it, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life.

Make a choice about your life and act on it instead of reacting to it.

They used to say that knowledge was power but I think knowledge overwhelmed and killed more people than choice ever did. Once you know that you have the choice to walk away from any situation - you really begin to live.

No, knowledge is power, and choices can kill people. Knowledge makes you aware of the world around you. Choices affect the world around you.

Much knowledge with no choices causes nothing.

No knowledge with many choices causes catastrophes.

Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. Do not believe in anything because it is spoken and rumoured by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. But after observation and analysis, when you find anything that agrees with reason and isconducive to the good and benefit of one and all then accept it and live up to it.

Create Your Life From Within ~

If you want more success, focus on all the ways that you are already successful.

If you want more love, focus on all the people that already care about you and the abundance of love you have to give to others.

If you want to create greater health, focus on all the ways that you are healthy, and so on and so forth.

Your 'outer' life is a reflection of your 'inner' life. Recognize and focus on the abundance you already have!

All you really need to live is air, food, water and shelter. Everything beyond that is just gravy - Abundance!

The universe responds to our general 'state of mind'. If our general state of mind is always in a state of 'wanting' then we will continue to want. If our general state of mind is usually in a state of 'gratitude', then we will get more to be grateful for.

This doesn't mean you can't have desires. It just means you're not fretting over them. Whenever you have a desire, ask yourself what is the 'real' reason for that desire. What is your motive? Focus on creating more of that motive by appreciating how much of that you already have in your life.

Focus your imagination and efforts on creating the 'state of mind' that will spontaneously create the desired results. It is much easier to affect change internally because we are dealing with an aspect of the universe that we have some control over. We can't always control our outer universe, but we can, with some effort, control our inner universe. Remember, the 'world without' is a reflection of the 'world within'.

Create Your Life From Within ~

If you want more success, focus on all the ways that you are already successful.



Man did you and I have a law of attraction moment. Long story short I just started a new job I hate and I have been dealing with some other personal issues for the last 2 weeks or so. Anyway, I've been really negative and this morning while working out while I was looking in the mirror I just said to myself, "You've had great successes in your life and if you'd focus on that and not the negative you'd have more success." I immediately started feeling better and then to come here and see that you've written exactly what I was just thinking an hour ago gave me a little more inspiration and reinforcement.

Man did you and I have a law of attraction moment. Long story short I just started a new job I hate and I have been dealing with some other personal issues for the last 2 weeks or so. Anyway, I've been really negative and this morning while working out while I was looking in the mirror I just said to myself, "You've had great successes in your life and if you'd focus on that and not the negative you'd have more success." I immediately started feeling better and then to come here and see that you've written exactly what I was just thinking an hour ago gave me a little more inspiration and reinforcement.


Now that more than gave me a chill. WoW.

Chuff you just keep thinking positive. And if you need a little more inspiration - think I will just give you a little reminder of all the great and wonderful things you have done and do, right here at AMHD.

You bring smiles to people's faces -
You lighten their hearts with incredible wisdom
And you give incredible and compassionate advice. And not as a hit or miss - you stick with them all the way to their new and healthy self.

Hey, nothing wrong with having a down moment or two - it's necessary and important because...

It reminds us to focus on all the ways that you are already successful;)

Oh by the way - thanks for all the smiles you bring to all of us. :)

Today I Am An Optimist

Optimists tend to focus more on the best way to do something, they create a plan and even a back up plan. They use positive reinterpretation to replace negative thoughts with more positive thoughts. In other words, they and more likely to reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they see it as a challenge.

Optimists are less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people to them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those around them. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom and doom are not.

So if you must be a pessimist........ Be an optimistic pessimist!

"The third-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the majority. The second-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the minority. The first-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking." - AA Milne

Give me work to do, Give me health, Give me joy in simple things,
Give me an eye for beauty, A tongue for truth, A heart that loves,
A mind that reasons, A sympathy that understands.
Give me neither malice nor envy, But a true kindness
And a noble common sense. At the close of each day
Give me a book And a friend with whom I can be silent.

~ S. M. Frazier ~

When someone talks to you, don't just give them your ears. Give them your ears, your eyes, your heart, your full attention, and an open mind. Only then can you know what they mean.