I am a 15 year old male who's love of his life is 12. She is very mature and we love each other very much. The only problem is she is 12 and is my dads girlfriends sister. Ik what a shocker and how gross. Yeah call it what u want but we love each other and I need advice.

Well if you love each other than love cannot break unless wanted to. Age doesn't matter, it's what you like about each other! What kind of advice do you need?

-superman :P

Do her parents allow her to date? A 12 yr old (no matter how mature) is still a child and doesn't really know whether they are in love or not. Despite juveniles who think age doesn't matter, it DOES matter. It matters less and less as people get older, so a 21 yr old and an 18 yr old is VERY different from 15 and 12.

You are still too young to understand what having a love of your life is.

But the bottom line here is her parents. If they permit her to date, then it is all right for you to date. However, it is NOT all right for you to get intimate with her to any degree. ANY sexual advances on your part could get you in jail.

I understand about the age difference. And like I said she is very mature and so am I. The only thing is, is that she is my dads girlfriends sister! And we can not let our parents know or they will kill us and see each other again. And thanks for the advice but I need more.

What do you need advice for?

There's no advice needed. You guys are both children, and behaving like children. There is no love at your age, only attraction. Separate before your parents find out, because they marry, both of you are in big trouble if you do anything stupid.

Yes, you both show how immature you are, since a mature person would do what they have to do, legally and proper.

1. 12 is a child, and even mature just means that you and her is justifying something wrong.
2. can't talk to parents, means you know it is wrong and knows they won't allow it.

So you don't date, and you wait till you are both old enough to do it properly

Yes, you both show how immature you are, since a mature person would do what they have to do, legally and proper.

1. 12 is a child, and even mature just means that you and her is justifying something wrong.
2. can't talk to parents, means you know it is wrong and knows they won't allow it.

So you don't date, and you wait till you are both old enough to do it properly


Of course they won't allow it, these two kids are practically related.

I understand about the age difference. And like i said she is very mature and so am i. The only thing is, is that she is my dads girlfriends sister! And we can not let our parents know or they will kill us and see eachother again. And thanks for the advice but i need more.

My mother's maternal grandmother married her paternal grandfather when my mother young. You are not related even if her sister marries your dad.

However, you have just proven how immature you both are and unrealistic this relationship is. I suspect the attraction is forbidden fruit NOT real love. But you have basically answered your own question. If you can't tell your parents, then you can't continue the relationship. It's that simple and that's all she wrote.

See our plan is to just stay together as long as possiable and keep it on the down low. We are not horny little kids we are young adults in love. We want to get married one day and I hope that's what happens.

Being with her is fine as long as she likes you back. The one thing to remember is she is three years younger than you and is female. You have alot of power over her and that may not be a good thing. Just make sure you are not rushing her into anything or taking advantage because this could lead to sexual abuse towards her.

So you advocate children sneaking behind their parents backs? Disobeying their parents?

Children need parental approval to date. Without it, they could get in serious legal trouble.

See our plan is to just stay together as long as possiable and keep it on the down low. We are not horny little kids we are young adults inlove. We want to get married one day and i hope thats what happens.

No you are immature children playing at being adults. The fact is that you cannot stay together without your parents permission. It is not a relationship to sneak around behind their backs. The more you do, the worse they will take it when they DO find out.

I have no doubt your feelings feel real to you. But you are too young to know how real they are. You NEED to tell your parents and see what they say.

So you advocate children sneaking behind their parents backs? Disobeying their parents?

Children need parental approval to date. Without it, they could get in serious legal trouble.

I don't think they meant it like that but they did make me think for a second

I dont think they ment it like that but they did make me think for a second

That's the problem with the way some people respond here. They don't think their answers through. Whether it was meant or not is immaterial. ANY response that advocates that you continue as you have been is encouraging you to go around your parents.

But yes, her feelings for you may be more due to that fact that you are older and she is basking in the attention of an "older man", than her actually being in love with you.

At this age, this is not love, it is lust and attraction. I remember when I was around that age, I had a few of these attractions, and thought we'd get married the whole nine yards. Yeah, guess what, it doesn't last.

Good luck at it lasting, and good luck at hiding it, and good luck to you both if your parents find out.

Love can wait.

and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.

and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.


Is this behind her parents' backs?

Well I'm still confused on the whole situation I'm tired of hiding our love for each other but if either of our parents find out we are dead. Ugh! Love stinks! YEAH YEAHH

and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.


You are suggesting that they date behind their parents' backs?

See our plan is to just stay together as long as possiable and keep it on the down low. We are not horny little kids we are young adults inlove. We want to get married one day and i hope thats what happens.

Oh please? At 15 I wouldn't consider you a young adult, especially if you think you're in love with a 12 year old.

If you at 15 consider yourself a your adult, then you are a pedophile since a 12 year old is a child, there is no way to try and pretend they are not.

You are both immature children who do not know how to control their hormones and are confusing being horny with love.

Oh please? At 15 I wouldn't consider you a young adult, especially if you think you're in love with a 12 year old.You don't have to be a about it and I am a young adult. You are probably single and desperae as hell.

I need advice not people telling me I'm a pedophile. Besides 3 years is legal.

I need advice not people telling me im a pedophile. Besides 3 years is legal.


Would you post that law for me?

I'm working on the relationship - the 12-year old bride to be is his father's girlfriend's sister. I note that the 12 year old is NOT a horny little kid but a responsible adult. I don't know if that's important - but I note it.

Father marries the girlfriend and the girlfriend becomes OP's stepmother.

The stepmother's sister becomes his aunt.

He marries his aunt (by marriage). He's his own uncle - or something.

NOW - their concern is their parents. I'm assuming his father is, give or take, he's 15, 35 or older. The father's girlfriend has a 12-year old sister. So - let's say the girlfriend is 24.

I have no idea where I was going with this and I have a headache.

You dont have to be a about it and i am a young adult. you are probably single and desperae as hell.


This is a classic! It's DESPERATE. Somehow your lack of capitalization and bad spelling took the sting out of the insult.

And, yes, Cobra - confess up! Are you single and desperate as Hell?

I need advice not people telling me im a pedophile. Besides 3 years is legal.

No one said you were, but if you want to consider yourself an adult, then you need to be aware of the consequences. I also find it interesting that you seem to be aware of what the law might be. That indicates you have been considering having sex with a 12 yr old. (EEEWWW).

Whether you have the law right we don't know unless you tell us what state you are in.

The thing is you have gotten advice, Good advice, but you seem to want to ignore that advice.

I need advice not people telling me im a pedophile. Besides 3 years is legal.

Three years when the youngest is the legal age of consent, is legal. At 15 and 12, you're not even close.

You can keep arguing, but the facts are the facts. Unless both your parents consent to the two of you dating, you can't legally date. Nothing you say is going to change that fact.

No one said you were, but if you want to consider yourself an adult, then you need to be aware of the consequences. I also find it interesting that you seem to be aware of what the law might be. That indicates you have been considering having sex with a 12 yr old. (EEEWWW).

Whether you have the law right we don't know unless you tell us what state you are in.

The thing is you have gotten advice, Good advice, but you seem to want to ignore that advice.

It doesn't have anything to do with sex it has to do with how long I have to hide my relationship with her.

Welp I've came to my sense ima try to hold off till she hits 18. Then ill try to pick back up where we left off thanks for the advice and sorry for being rude to some of you.

It doesnt have anything to do with sex it has to do with how long i have to hide my relationship with her.

You're not listening at all, are you? A true sign of how mature you aren't. Mature people listen to people that are older and wiser than they are. You should try it.

You can't hide your relationship with her. That would be illegal. You need parental consent to date her. In fact, you both need parental consent to date. If you date her without parental consent, you're in for a world of trouble. Her parents finding out would be the least of your worries. There are laws.

Are you getting it yet? If you want to date her, your mom and dad have to agree, and so do hers. That's the only way the two of you will be allowed to date.

Like I said I'm going to wait till she is 18 that wayit is legal.

What's legal at 18? I thought you were asking about dating. "Legal" at 18 sounds like you are asking about having sex with a 12-year old.

You dont have to be a about it and i am a young adult. you are probably single and desperae as hell.

Sorry kid, but a 15 year old is not a young adult. You would be, in a year if you didn't think you were in love and willing to wait for someone until you're 18. Give it a couple years, she'll be just another girl you dated. I've seen it time and time again.



This is a classic! It's DESPERATE. Somehow your lack of capitalization and bad spelling took the sting out of the insult.

And, yes, Cobra - confess up! Are you single and desperate as Hell?


As for me being single and desperate? I'm not, and damn proud of it. My high school sweetheart is laying in bed right now, about to wake up to the warm smell of coffee and pancakes.

Sorry to burst your bubble.
:)

Welp ive came to my sense ima try to hold off till she hits 18. Then ill try to pick back up where we left off thanks for the advice and sorry for being rude to some of you.

{FONT=Sarcasm} Well that was real sincere {/Font}

But you don't have to go that far. All you need to do is ask both sets of parents whether they approve of your dating. If they agree, then go ahead as long as there is no sex involved. If they don't agree, ask how old or what under conditions they would allow it. If they say wait a few years, then wait.

Okay obviously there are plenty of grown people telling you this is wrong. You're going to do what you're going to do. But think about it, the adults on here have been trough your developmental stage and more. We are speaking from experience. It's hard to believe, however it's true. Break it off, and if the feelings are real, they will still be there after you both have grown some and lived life a little bit. Then you can address those feelings as adults.

Well age will nevr matter my parents were 17 yrs apart so the little difference doesn't matter and if you don't want to tell them then don't but sooner or later your going to have to but make sure you guys are true love.

well age will nevr matter my parents were 17 yrs apart so the little difference doesnt matter and if you dont want to tell them then dont but sooner or later your going to have to but make sure you guys are true love.


So your parents started dating when your mother was 12?

So your parents started dating when your mother was 12?

No. I was just saying that 3 yrs apart is nothing.

No. i was just saying that 3 yrs apart is nothing.

You're right, 3 years apart is nothing. But at 15 and 12, it is a lot.

No. i was just saying that 3 yrs apart is nothing.

You obviously didn't pay attention to what has been said here. 3 yrs is nothing WHEN BOTH ARE ADULTS. But that's not the case here and 3 years matters greatly.

Also advocating that children go behind their parents back is not only illegal but highly dangerous. Such advice will not be tolerated here. I suspect you are another typical teenager who thinks they know more than adults who have already been through this stuff.

You are giving very bad advice here. And we take pride in the quality of the advice we give.

You obviously didn't pay attention to what has been said here. 3 yrs is nothing WHEN BOTH ARE ADULTS. But that's not the case here and 3 years matters greatly.

Also advocating that children go behind their parents back is not only illegal but highly dangerous. Such advice will not be tolerated here. I suspect you are another typical teenager who thinks they know more than adults who have already been through this stuff.

You are giving very bad advice here. And we take pride in the quality of the advice we give.

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The child who answered is just that - a 14-year old child.

Anyone care to hear my "stay off the adult boards" rant?

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