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nickstar
Jun 13, 2012, 05:19 AM
I'm a 23 years old guy with my ex 1 years older than me. 10 months gone since we broke up but my mind is with my ex in every seconds of my life and I don't know why. I've try everything to move on but I just can't, My friends got tired to help me and even counseling doesn't work.

I'm always jealous when I saw my ex walking together with her boyfriends, and I"m scared to see what will happen to me at the time of her wedding"s day.

I know that it was not my fault during the breakup because she was the one who did it because of her parents. But I'm always trying to get her back but there is no way for that. Now I feel lonely like there is no more girls for me in this world. She is the reason for my everything.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 13, 2012, 05:48 AM
You need to work on your independence. You're so dependent of her still and it's 10 month later. Sounds like you near ruined your chances to move on unless you can get those friends back. Don't try and get them to help you, just be with them. Go out, try something you guys never did before.

Keep your mind busy and as far away from her as possible. Talking about her, and what your problems are will only make things worse. Just distract yourself.

talaniman
Jun 13, 2012, 07:07 AM
After 10 months I am sure your friends are tired of hearing how miserable you are without this ex. Stop comparing and have some fun, and others will want to have fun with you. I think nothing works because you would rather be miserable and cannot replace what you had.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on with real life. In time it gets better if you let it. Stop keeping her alive in your own mind.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 13, 2012, 09:12 AM
If you want to be misable, you can be, but your friends are tired of it after 10 months, a month maybe,

You want to be miserable and you are good at it. Stop comparing and start dating.

mmresd
Jun 13, 2012, 10:56 AM
You stop comparing. Find the good in the people you meet, not punish them because they may not have things that your ex has had. You haven't moved on properly, give it more time before you start dating again. This comparing will make you miss out on new experiences, obviously things didn't work with her... why would you be looking for the same thing?