Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 5 months. Recently she has been complaining that I'm controlling and I don't let her be herself. She likes to sneak out and do bad things however, I forbid her from doing that. So just yesterday she broke up with me. We have broken up before but it was only for a day or two. I love her so much that I am willing to put up with anything. But this time its different.

She is so serious and she doesn't want me anymore. She doesn't want to talk to me, she doesn't want to hangout with me and she can't tell me if she loves me anymore. She says there is a chance we may get back together. But for now we are broken up and she isn't promising anything. She wants to be free and if she so happens to be with another man or flirt, than its not cheating and she is single so she can do what she wants.

I feel though since she can't tell me no to me asking if she loves me, then I think that her possibly seeing another man still counts as cheating even though we are broken up. I just want her to love me again. I miss her so much. I'm depressed. I feel so alone. I have nobody. She wasn't only my girlfriend. But she was my best friend. We were so close. So alike. We loved each other so much. I just want things to go back to normal. I want her to love me and be loyal to me. I just want to be with her. I love her so much and I can't do this without her. I'm so alone and at times I want to kill myself. I need her. What should I do?

What are you even doing with this chick in the first place. You have to stop her from going out and doing bad stuff? You should have ran from the start. Now you're so blinded by love that you don't even realize that you both weren't meant to be and incompatible. You're saying things like,


We were so close. So alike. We loved each other so much. I just want things to go back to normal.

You need to let go man! You both were incompatible and very different. Go no contact with her and move on with your life.

You advised another poster to build a new life, so go back to doing what you did before you met her, but do it better.

That you have wrapped your whole life around a person in 5 months is really not good and you seem to have thought you were saving her from herself. Well she didn't want to be save and dumped you.

You cannot control anyone but yourself, so now you control yourself and get on with doing better for yourself, and let go of the notion she is cheating on you. She isn't, she is doing what she wants, not what you want, so let it go and get control of yourself.

You will in time.