View Full Version : How can I help a depressed person
justenter
Jun 12, 2012, 11:22 PM
I know this girl she's 15 and she wants to kill herself and she cuts 2 what should I do ?
joypulv
Jun 13, 2012, 01:01 AM
You should tell her to get help and also tell the school nurse, at leave it at that. You can't even begin to help her in all the ways she needs help, even if it seems like you can at first by being her friend. She may appear to be OK for a while but you may find yourself 'needed' more and more to save her from herself, or even used to prove that you won't be enough of what she needs, and thus add to her wish to die. In other words, don't get all tangled up in this. Your concern is admirable but keep in mind that just by telling you she wants to die and that she cuts is involving you in something that isn't fair to you.
justenter
Jun 13, 2012, 03:57 AM
Okay thanks that helped me ! :y
justenter
Jun 13, 2012, 04:47 AM
I'm 14 and I had this friend a guy friend and I visited him and he made me have sex and I made as if I wanted to caus I didn't know what to do and I really didn't want to do it but I didn't want to make him mad so I did it but really hated it and the best part is that he has a girlfriend and he makes " love " to her all the time and I told her abowt what he did to me and he told me if he ever sees me again his not even going to think twice abowt killing me. And then a few days later I visited my best friend at her house and she has a brother and her nephew was at home 2 and their like 17 18 and they started 2 flirt with me and and they told me they like me... And that night they went to a club and they came home 3 o' clock or something and me and my friend slept and they came into our room me and my friend slept in. And I wasn't tired anymore and they didn't want to leave the room so my friend got mad and left me there with them and we talked hole night and they dared me 2 kiss them and and I didn't want to. But I didn't and they began 2 touch me downstairs and touched my boobs and I didn't get a say in it and they finally stopped and I didn't know what 2 do. And I just don't know WHY I didn't stopped them I guess I was just scared they would get mad and stuff and I didn't want them to not like me anymore I just feel like a total idiot so the night went on and I got really tired and me and her brother falled asleep next 2 each other. And my friend came the next morning 2 wake us up and she saw me and her brother sleeping in the same bed and. She told me 2 call my dad and get me caus she doesn't want to be my friend anymore and thts just painfull and I have no 1 in my life anymore I'm so depressed and just need help I don't know what 2 do anymore :( :'(!!
C0bra_M3nace
Jun 13, 2012, 05:05 AM
Memories like this can scar a human being, scar them in ways you can't imagine, especially when you start bottling them up. I wish I could say that the memories will fade away and you will forget, because they won't. Sweetheart there are a lot of people who will help you, your parents included. I would hope that your parents would want justice for what was done to you, and I can assure you that they won't be mad about what happened. It's not your fault, and you have to realize that no matter what happened, it's not your fault.
Talk to your parents, explain to them what happened. What those boys did to you is against the law, and they should be punished. Your parents are there to protect you, so help them protect you. If you were my child I would want you to tell me what happened.
justenter
Jun 13, 2012, 06:01 AM
Thanks!. Yeah I guess my parents would want to know I will try to tell them :(
C0bra_M3nace
Jun 13, 2012, 06:06 AM
As a wise man once said,
"You must do, or do not, there is no try"
They will want to know, and you need to tell them, they will help you, and if need be, they can find a counselor or a psychiatrist who can help you through the memories, and help you past them.
justenter
Jun 14, 2012, 01:45 AM
Yeah I wish it was easy to talk to my family about stuff I need to tell them but they judge everything no matter what I just don't think they will understand
C0bra_M3nace
Jun 14, 2012, 07:33 AM
If they don't then they aren't very good parents, no offense. If my child was molested twice, I'd want to know, I wouldn't care what happened, I'd want to know, and I'd want to punish who did it.
You need to tell them, keeping it inside will make it worse and hurt you in the long run.
justenter
Jun 14, 2012, 09:42 AM
I have been depressed for 2 years now. I don't have any friends my family just gives me all the time the only option left for me is to kill myself but I don't want to do that I want to have friends I want to have fun I just want to live!. :( I'm so alone in this world and no one cares about me. I have some sad memories 2 and I don't know how to deal with it. I had a guy friend and he made me have sex with him and made me touch his **** and made me rub him and a few weeks later I visited my ex best friends house and she had a brother and his nephew was there to and they are like 17 18 and I'm only 14!. And I was alone in a room and it was very late it was like 5 am and they touched me everywhere and I told them to stop but they didn't and me and his stupid brother I was so tired and I didn't care abowt myself I felt like I am nobody I don't need to worry abowt myself caus no one else does so me and his brother fell asleep next to each other and my ex friend woke us up and saw me and her brother sleeping next to each other and she told me to call my dad caus she wants me to leave her house and I just miss her she hates me now! She was my best friend I ever had!. We had so much fun together and now she doesn't even look at me I don't know what 2 do anymore I don't have anyone to talk to please help me I don't want to feel this pain anymore ! :(
JudyKayTee
Jun 14, 2012, 09:53 AM
Did you report these incidents to the Police?
You need to speak to a responsible adult, perhaps a school counsellor, about the sexual assault and your depression and thoughts of suicide.
As far as your friend, yes, I understand why she's upset. Don't you?
JudyKayTee
Jun 14, 2012, 09:55 AM
Is this person you? I have read your other threads.
JudyKayTee
Jun 14, 2012, 09:56 AM
Please stop opening new threads with the same questions. I have asked that they all be combined.
bonita82
Jun 22, 2012, 11:28 PM
Sweetie,I'm so sorry! This is sad I worrie what if someone gets you pregnant?
First think yes speak to your parents or call the police don't you let this keep continuing with any else. How are thinks at home with your parents do they both work are you attending regular class setting? There is hope and I pray that you will get the help you need to continue in your life!
I know at 14 years old you have dreams of your own you deserve to be happy and feel that you are safe! Please keep us posted