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simonman
Feb 27, 2007, 01:14 PM
It has been over six months since I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. This was my first LTR. At first it was casual casual dating; I did not feel love. Then about a year into it he said "I love you" and I said the same thing but I kind of felt that I was saying it just because he said it. Now, since this guy was my first everything, ltr, sex, etc, and I was in 20 at the time, in the back of my mind I always wondered what other guys where like. He had other relationships before this one, I was on my first, so I envied him and would say to myself, "he had other experiences, and I only had this one, what if this is the wrong choice."
I moved in with him at the start of our 3rd year and it was cool he took care of me and I did the same to him. When I was living with him he started to plan out our life together, and I kind of felt that I had no say so in the matter.

Now that we have been more than six months apart I may have feelings that where not there before. A few weeks ago(on my own, I did not say this to him), I got kind of angry with him because if he had opened up and treated me like an equal we would have been very happy together; although, I never said anything about it either, I just kind of moved out without ever uttering a word as to why I was leaving. I am beginning to appreciate what he stood in terms of emotional stability, love, he truly loved me, no I'm realizing what a wonderful guy he is and I may have feelings for him that may not have been there in the past. Is going back ever the right things?

Is going back ever the right things? :confused:

LBP
Feb 27, 2007, 01:20 PM
The question is, will he ever take you back? I doubt it. YOu completely abused his trust with lies and cowardice. Do him a favor and move on.

If you have to, reach out. But do you really think you have changed or do you just want what you found out you've been missing? If put into a situation similar to before will you take the coward's way out again or will you actually communicate? Don't screw around with this guy.

Be serious. Can you manage that? If not, then please, live your life and grow up a little before messing with this guy's head.

talaniman
Feb 27, 2007, 02:46 PM
Why go back? For whatever reason it didn't work. Accept its over and learn from your mistakes and work on your issues. Its natural to miss someone after a lot of time and emotion invested. But that doesn't mean go back for more of the same.

TheSavage
Feb 27, 2007, 02:58 PM
Is it love or might it be loneliness?It sounds like you went from your parents house right to his.Like anything, time go`s by and folks forget the crap and just remember the good.
Regardless you made the call 6 months ago and your stuck with it.