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jennifer0992
Jun 10, 2012, 07:12 PM
I have a hard time making friends where I live- I think prior to moving here 15 years ago-- I did have friends and people I could hang out with. I moved to orlando, Florida and it has been a bad nightmare ever since. I literally can't make ANY friends here. People are just mean/rude to me and ignore me or treat me badly. People at work too-- everyone is involved in their own life and once they leave work that's it too. I'm very friendly, charismatic, cool, funny... I can make friend with anyone really however the problem is--people don't want to be friends with me or don't want to bother with others... I'm also an attractive girl and there is this... jealousy.. people are uncomfortable around me because I'm 'beautiful' however... I see other pretty girls having friends... I'm also really nice and laid back and it seems people take advantage of the fact that I'm so 'down to earth' and nice... in the end... im just a loner... no one will be my friend yet people act as if they aer in 'awe' of me in some strange way- but they don't want anything to do with me or be around me... most people if they are talking to me it means they are trying to use me in some way then bail.

If you've livedin the same place 15 years and can't meet a SINGLE person should you move?? I'm sure if I moved I'd meet people as I've visited other cities a few times and noticed... that people seemed more open to me in some places... open to friendship... however in orlando... its like I'm doomed.. not a single friend... maybe I had one friend in 15 years then she moved and she was a user too... I'm not sure what to do... I just kind of suffer in loneliness and also I can't meet a guy as well-- men aer too scared of me because I'm pretty... and just reject or shun me or dislike me... literally no one likes me... but to describe myself... im kind caring cool and I look like 'girl next door' type pretty like you might see in some actresses who are younger... I'm definitely not intimidating at all... it just seems there is nothing I can do to meet people in this God awful messed up city... I also knew people years ago or have talked to people who felt the same way-- they couldn't meet anyone in this city... or it was really hard...

jennifer0992
Jun 10, 2012, 07:16 PM
Also the only people I do meet seem to be psychopaths who want to hurt or abuse me mentally or in some forms-- mostly predators... its like I'm either alone or meeting predators who literally torment me-- that's my reality here and it's awful... everyday I feel I deserve 1000 times better I deserve a great boyfriend or a boyfriend or someone... but oddly I can't even get a boyfriend, BTU I look like a model and I'm very pretty and really nice too... its like I'm just destined to be a loner here but I can't change it...

LadySam
Jun 12, 2012, 06:04 PM
Go back to your original post and reread it.
Take notice of the words you use to describe yourself and then the words you use to describe others.
Perhaps you seem unapproachable to people you encounter.
You seem to have very low opinions of others while having a very high opinion of yourself.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't feel good about yourself, because everyone should.
What I'm saying is a little humility may serve you well.
You seem to have had some bad experiences with people, everyone has. Don't let that influence how you view everyone, there are lots of good people in this world, I'm sure even in Orlando.