Okay me and my husband have been through more than most couples can stand. We met in 2005 and been together since day one. We have lived together for about two years now, and we have two kids together. A few months ago literally overnight he stopped holding me at night whereas before we were pretty much conjoined. At night now its almost like he rolls away from me. We've been fighting a lot these past couple weeks because he no longer shows much interest in when I'm talking, or anything really. He just always seems to be really mad, and gets super angry or defensive about everything. He also doesn't make much for quality time anymore, and even when he looks at me, kisses me, or holds me, it just doesn't feel the same. He has become so distant with me, and I don't know how to fix it anymore. He used to be so goofy, and fun loving, now he's just angry, and cold and distant. Any advice or reason for this sudden change?

You should try just talking to him calmly. If that doesn't work then you should probably dig deeper and find out if he's having an affair. I understand if you would say he's incapable of doing something like that but anything is possible. Try to win him back the same way he fell in love with you. Even try different things you both haven't tried. Tell him that you are interested in saving your marriage and that he should be too.

I wouldn't say he's incapable of having an affair he's had PLENTY but I've tried all those things and none of them really work I've definitely had experience in how he acts when he's cheating that doesn't seem to be the case I am just at wits end

I think looking around at other areas of this "marriage" will yield you clues that something is amiss. Be it growing financial worries, job related stresses, kids growing up and needing more, unable to make progress, this are things that affect attitude and behavior, and his distance and coldness an short temper are from frustrations and resentment in his life that go unexpressed, or unresolved, and that lack of ability to communicate what's on his mind is frustrating to you, which compounds the problem.

So have there been major changes, issues, or conditions that these kinds of stresses could be from? Moving or have moved recently? How are the finances? Outside family, or work problems, DEATHS in the family?

Many things to consider, and evaluate to understand and take the right approach to resolving. You must first find the root cause. How old are your children, and what's his life like outside of the family, and what is YOUR role, as in do you work outside the house? Rent, mortgage, or apartment? Got any big plans coming up?

Thank you this actually makes a lot of sense

Also examine your own behavior because guys to get irritate when the wife is needy or nagging when he has pressing things on his mind. Not saying you are, but living together is a lot different than living apart, and two years is not enough time yet to know the true depth of a persons character, habits, or ways and this is normally the getting to find out about each other, where you both have to establish how you interact, and make adjustments to each other.

When you see this through your own personal feelings, wants, and needs, you are distracted from a bigger picture of how you affect each others moods and attitudes. That goes for him too, to be fair, so you both have to learn about the other, and be able to talk about it, calmly, without accusing or fault finding.

He may not even know that rolling over in bed makes you feel rejected. As you may not know the wind down after a work day is important to him.