I have been married for 5 years and with my husband for 10. We have his, mine and ours. He had 2 from a previous as did I. The thing is my babies want me to move out and have started our lives over without my husband. I am torn in two. My husband and I have been getting along great, that’s what makes it hard. If were fighting this whole situation would be so much easier to deal with.

The girls are scared of him, he has only touched them once, and not hitting he was trying to push them out of the house, when that happened my 15 yr. old went to live with her grandparents. Just recently she started coming around. Things were fine then my oldest (17) got into an argument with my stepdaughter (14). She called her a bad word that my hubby didn’t like, and he initially got very mad and ended up getting in both of my daughters face.

They both said they are not coming back to live there. There has been a lot of turmoil in our household and it has not been easy. Part of me thinks that us splitting up would be for the best... IDK what to do. There is a lot more to this story, I wouldn’t have enough room to explain it all.

I have been married for 5 years and with my husband for 10. We have ,his,mine and ours. he had 2 from a previous as did i. The thing is my babies want me to move out and have start our lives over without my husband. I am torn in two. My husband and i have been getting along great, thats what makes it hard. if were fighting this whole situation would be so much easier to deal with. the girls are scared of him, he has only touched them once, and not hitting he was trying to puch them out of the house, when that happened my 15 yr old went ot live with her grandparents. jus trecently she started coming around. things were fine then my oldest (17) got into an argument with my stepdaughter (14). she called her a bad word that my hubby didnt like, and he initially got very mad and ended up getting in both of my daughters face. they both said they are not coming back to live there. there has been alot of turmoil in our household and it has not been easy. part of me htinks that us splitting up would be for the best............IDK what to do. there is alot more to this story, i wouldnt have enough room to explain it al.............
Tricky situation. This is what I would do. When it comes to discipline, You do yours and he do his. It seems there is lingering anger between them. They need to let this go and move on from this point-a fresh start with the new discipline. A new rule, everyone can speak their mind in a control tone (without yelling) and there can be no disagreements in what is said (even if there are, keep it to your self) It seems to me that everyone needs a dose of respect. Maybe seek therapy. It is not fair to you by anyone to force you to choose. THAT within itself is a very selfish and inconsiderate thing to ask of someone. They should be ashamed of themselves. Good luck!

Teen agers are difficult by nature, and what's important is a unified front when it comes to parenting. It's a big red flag that your kids can threaten to leave, and have somewhere to go!

Without more facts I cannot see blaming your husband alone. In a marriage, both parents share responsibility for out comes good, or bad, blended families, or not. And if you have been together for 10 years, and get along great, then you should be able to talk.

It sounds like teenage "divide and conquer" games. Like tal said, you and your husband need to talk and coordinate and make a united front. Don't let your kids bamboozle you two into making the mistake of a lifetime.