So my boyfriend and I have been together seven months now, we talked for a whole year. When we first got together our sex life was great. He told me he has been with guys before, so we are pretty kinky... if you catch my drift... no threesomes or crazy stuff like that. But ever since he has told me he has been with guys, we don't have sex often. When we do he usually wants me to use a toy on him, which gets him off quicker. Then I don't get off and he doesn't want to play anymore. Then when we "make" love he cums too fast. I haven't has an orgasm with him in a long time. So I play with myself. But it really sucks because I love him so much and want to make love to him. I have tried talking to him about it. But he says he doesn't want to because he is afraid of disappointing me. Months ago, we hung out ever second when he wasn't working, now he makes all these projects to pre occupy his time. So the time we now spend together is going to bed. I don't know what else to do and have iyou have no one else to talk to... please help me

PS. He is an amazing man! I am just afraid he is gay... would make sense too. Because he is seriously the best man I have ever met or been with

PS. He is an amazing man! I am just afraid he is gay... would make sense too. Because he is seriously the best man I have ever met or been with


Just be honest and ask him, he might be and to afraid to come out of the closet. I don't know if I could tolerate that...

So... the only thing you do when you're together is have sex, and he's not even making sure you enjoy it when you do?

Sounds like you're not in a relationship at all---it sounds like you're a booty call.

Stop putting out and see what happens.

I agree - stop being his booty call and see what happens.

Lol sorry! Maybe I should be more specific. We are in a very exclusive relationship. It's just when we have sex, he wants to "play". I want to make live. Everything else in our relationship is pretty good. And mysteryuser, I have asked him if he was gay, but he denies it. Maybe I am just over reacting. I don't know.